Haydies,

You did great getting through this meltdown....now, for the next time something like this happens...
Babies are instinctual creatures. They do NOT manipulate or react to learned behaviour until well over 6 months, usually more like 9 or 12. They respond well to routine because it takes more than one go at anything for them to learn and having a routine (however liberal or strict it is) allows them to predict enough in some areas that they can learn in others without feeling insecure and "on guard" all the time. As long as there are some constants they can rely on (which might be "bedtime is at 7" or "booby happens at bedtime, which i decide the timing of myself" or "mummy reads when i go to bed") kids do great. This means that until your bubs is about 6-9 months NOTHING you have done has taught her to behave a certain way. Even CC, which many believe teaches a baby that crying does not attract anyone's attention (which is why they stop crying) is not recommended and does not work until a baby is MUCH older.

If, when bubs is 8 years old, every time in her whole life she's cried you've immediately given her exactly what she wants no matter what, THEN you might have made a rod for your own back (which by the way is by NO MEANS irreversible, kids are smart and can learn different behaviour much more easily than adults). But comforting your tiny baby? Holding her when she asks for you? Accepting that sometimes life is scary for a bit and only mummy will do to calm her? That is NOT making a rod, that is being a loving parent and you're really good at it so be proud

Bx