DH doesn't tend to wake up (like a lot of our DHs it seems!) and if DD2 is really unsettled, I take her to the lounge and watch TV. I've only done that once I think, she's been really good.
I put the change table in our room too and either switch the toilet light on in our ensuite for a bit of light or just use the little night light I bought from Ikea (little rechargeable green light sold in the kids section.
I feed DD in bed and play on my phone to keep myself awake. It provides enough light to see what's going on too.
We haven't had an issue at all with DD2 and she settles back to sleep easily most of the time and so do I. If we were to have a really bad night, DH would happily move to the spare room.
DD1 was super noisy so we put her in her own room at 9 weeks. Until then she slept in the bassinet in our room and I took her into the lounge for feeds and the nursery for nappy changes. I realise now doing that was a mistake. Moving rooms to feed, the extra light, watching TV, etc meant we were both 'too' awake a lot of the time making it difficult to go back to sleep.
I slept through ex's 4am alarm on snooze for 20 minutes for months. I would wake to DDs every grunt, but did not hear that alarm. DD got used to it as well. & it wasn't quiet!
Im sorry, but in my house we are in it together. Our girls stay in our room until 1yr+. The night time feeds, dh would get up change nappy and have a cuddle while I went to the loo and then got myself ready for a feed. he then kept me company whilst I fed, especially when i was so sleepy that i was falling asleep. As they got older, dh just got used to it and would sleep through it. If we were more tired than usual, we would go to bed earlier than normal.
As so co-sleeping and feeding when they were on the outside i would lay in the middlee of the bed so it was comfortable and safe to feed. But to be honest i prefer them sleeping on the outside because it means I can get a cuddle from dh and the bub has more room to sleep
I always have trouble waking up and DH doesn't so it used to work for us where DH would get up first and do a nappy change, then I would get up and feed, while DH goes back to bed. It wasn't a problem for DH having to get up and he is such a light sleeper that even if DS had been on the other side of the house he would hear him before I would.
If Mum has to wake for baby, then I don't see why Dad has to stay asleep. I mean here DH rarely did any "afterhours" baby stuff. But if I disturbed him, I disturbed him. Sorry but thats just part of life.
If the baby was having a particularly unsettled night then I would go out of the room & usually come sit on the PC for my own sanity. But I always had a night light for me, a small lamp. This time round I just kept the bathroom light on with the door opened just enough to allow enough light for me to see & then I would push it closed after I changed nappies etc.
We have never had a baby sleep in another room. they are always in bed with us or with in arms reach with out getting out of bed.
If your DH has a problem with being woken, tell him to suck it up.
DD's cradle is in our room, and I try to settle her in it and sleep in the bed. but always end up spending the WHOLE night on the couch =( I'm worried about waking DH, because he is a truck driver he HAS to sleep, as he is driving all day. I'm not comfortable enough to have her in bed with both of us... after DH has gone to work (5am) I am happy to have her with me in the bed, but not with both of us.
I could handle it for a couple of nights...but not anymore =( thank god today is friday and tonight I am going to try to feed her in bed as I don't have to worry about DH getting up for work, and we can see how it works...if it is a problem for him.
sitting up yea... its too big and comfy to lay with her, last night i tried to make a bed for her on the ground (that sounds so bad but itssafer than the couch) so i could lay on the couch and not keep going in and out of the bed room. but she wakes up ever hr so still didnt work
I actually have dh in another bed so far, so i can feed, sleep whatever with dd in bed without worrying anyone, im loving it, its short term so ill enjoy the snuggles while i can. Is that an option for u teirae? Just till she starts a cpl hr sleeping stints
DH has always been an obnoxiously good sleeper, so he rarely work up but that was nothing that a good kick in the shins didn't fix! He wasn't opposed to being woken in the night though, it's nice to see another friendly face in the cold wee hours!
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He wasn't opposed to being woken in the night though, it's nice to see another friendly face in the cold wee hours!
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