The questions we get most often from other people about our babies...

[Jennifer13]

If I have a girl next and get asked that qn I think I'll be cheeky and say, "Oh yes, we're going to keep going until we get a boy, just like they did in the old days!"

[{sarah}]

Bathsheba, Zander's godfather's name is Wade & I've been friends with him since we started kindergarten together, so it's a totally normal name to me LOL! I love your other names as well, Verity is so pretty & Niall sounds so strong to me.

[Bathsheba]

Hahaha Jillian that's so funny! When people ask me where I buy my kid's clothes "because they always look so lovely" I take great delight in saying "oh, usually the Op Shop"... you should see the faces of the more competitative mum's at Playgroup when I say that! Usually it follows the "what school are you going to send your boys to?" conversation... they can't seem to get their heads around the fact that we are sending our kids to private schools yet choose to shop at Op Shops (though to me it makes perfect sense if you want to also be a SAHM!). They just don't seem to know how to "rate" me LOL BTW I love Op Shopping... you find the most original stuff there! I loooove 'vintage' children's clothing.

ETA: Thanks Sarah I've loved the name Verity since I was 15yo and "knew" that I was going to name my daughter that name... Wade was my DH's suggestion and Niall was mine but it took a bit of convincing to get it past DH... as did his middle name: Atticus! But a lot of men seem to struggle with naming children it seems.

[Jennifer13]

Better off spending money on our kids' education than on designer clothes, Bathsheba. Although I have to admit a weakness for cute outfits. I think I like dressing Lucy more than myself! I always shop when they have sales. Osh Kosh sell off shoes at the end of each season and I bought Lucy pairs in every size and a few different styles and colours - 9 in total - for $10 each!! Somehow I think I'm getting off the subject here!

[Bathsheba]

LOL yeah... I thought the same thing Jen (me being off topic)... but it IS a question I get asked And I so agree with enjoying dressing my kids more than myself these days!

[Tracey]

I rarely buy myself anything either as the girls always come first & it's funny how I also find some cheap bargains & mix & match them with other cheap stuff & people will comment & ask where I got the outfit when it was all various bits thrown together!

[Liz]

Gosh.. think I'm guilty of asking some of those earlier questions and comments! But it really is just small talk! I promise! I didn't realise people get offended so easily! LOL.

Tracey - I happily call Tallon our little half-breed. LOL. We also get the 'eurasians are gorgeous' comments.. I don't mind that at all

I actually find it harder to reply to compliments! hehe. When someone says how cute he is I don't wanna sound like I'm boasting! LOL. I've been known to say that.. yes.. it seems two wrongs CAN make a right!

[Tracey]

Half breed from the Mum is different than a half caste comment from a stranger...

[Liz]

Yeah true. I wasn't excusing what that person said at all. And caste is an awful word for them to use.

People are still really funny about mixed couples tho. Do you find that? We're always getting stared at.. and more-so now that we're breeding! *shock horror* hehe. Especially from the older generations, and very much from other asians! Do you find that?

[Debbie Lee]

Isn't it a pity that this day in age people are still using phrases like half-caste?? Honest to goodness!!
Tracey - I agree... your girls are just gorgeous! As for people reserving any kind of judgement about their physical features, they can go jump in the lake. People are people... we are capable of falling in love with anyone - even if they are of a different ethnicity. Time for people to let go of the whole "mixed-race" stigma. Urrgh! AND I can't believe that nurse that "assumed" that the baby you were losing had a different father. Besides which, what business is it of hers!! God... I wanna slap her silly!!

Kathryn - don't feel bad about having to ask if the mother's and child's surnames are the same. These days, it's 50/50. Guaranteed every class I teach, at least half the kids don't share the same last name as the mother. The funny thing is (and I hope this is a good thing) is that I am more inclined to assume that Mum decided to keep her maiden name or something like that! Some of the parents have explained to me why their last names aren't the same (marriage isn't for them, they're engaged but not yet married etc. etc.). Either way, it's an individual choice and there are soooo many different reasons so it's not fair to jump to conclusions (not that I think you do... ykwim??).

I often get asked if Gabby is a girl or a boy. I guess the lack of hair doesn't help. It baffles me when people ask when she's wearing pink tho... why would I dress a boy in pink??
In saying that, she was wearing a Ford Racing jumper yesterday with her red water-proof pants and everyone assumed she was a boy.... but she was also wearing a purple pixi hat that I SO wouldn't put on a boy, LOL. I couldn't blame people tho.

I too get the "is she a good baby" question. It used to annoy me but now I give up trying to steer people off such a dumb question. I just say "yep" and move on, LOL.

[{sarah}]

why would I dress a boy in pink??

Oi, boys can wear pink too Have a look at my boy in pink - here

[Jennifer13]

Can't believe you girls get the 'half-caste' comments or even sideways glances!

If you were going down that road I wouldn't know how to classify Lucy - mixture of German, Serbian, English, Italian, Irish and who-knows-what-Australian. And anyone who knows anything about history should know that 'English' is about the most mixed-race background of all!!

[Bathsheba]

And it's actually "good" for humanity to have babies from mixed races... it's good genetically because it breeds out a lot of diseases that are prevalent to particular races. Sorry to be be crude here (I hope I don't offend anyone) but it's like animal breeding: you usually get a much healthier animal from mixed breeds than 2 pure breeds. I have a racially prevalent disease: (Cholestasis of pregnancy is very prevalent in the Swedish race but my DH hasn't got any Swedish blood so the chances of my DD inheriting it has lessened. Anyhow... if anyone else has the hide to comment about mixed race marriages or children just you tell them that!

[Debbie Lee]

LOL Sarah... it looks red!!
Zander would look spunky in anything
Ok... I stand corrected.
But, I mean, if you saw a baby wearing "baby pink" and looking really girly, would there be any mistake?? That's what I meant!

[Bathsheba]

LOL Niall has also been known to wear his sister's pink wondersuits... being the middle of winter and falling behind with the washing has led to having no other choice... and once I had to go out in public and yes... sure enough someone had to notice and tell me how "gorgeous" she was!

[{sarah}]

LOL Deb, I was just picking on ya And it isn't red, it's more of a salmon pink

[Jennifer13]

I have only bought Lucy blue, green and white wondersuits, since I want to pass them down to #2. But she doesn't tend to wear them when I go out. We got a fair few very little outfits from family that are unisex 'cause they bought them before we found out she was a girl. I also get told a bit "you didn't want anyone to not realise she was a girl". Maybe I'm dressing her too girly!!

Sarah, that kind of pink is lovely on a boy! I also think light pink shirts with a dark dinner suit look great on men too. Depending on the tie...

[Tracey]

Ivana,
I do get lot's of stares from other Asians & these are the ones that usually stop my Mum & Tell her those kids arent yours!! Like she's kidnapped them hee hee!

I have that photo of Indah wearing your t-shirt Sarah H on my desk & EVERYONE says that little man looks like a handful... I laugh coz YEP that little miss is a cheeky, stubborn mimi me!!!

My Mum wets herself laughing at the moment as Indah is so stubborn & has a bad temper... Like me apparently!???

I dont mind when they simply ask what nationality the girls father is etc, but when I just get people up in my face being rude about the mix kids thingy it really p!sses me off!

I once attacked a lady in Safeway when her son was rude to Maddison about having dirty skin, it was Summer & yep she was pretty brown, but I will never tolerate my kids being attacked with racism & this Mother copped an absolute foul mouthful from me... I will not stand around & wtacxh anyone be put down, judged or disrespected because they are different!!!

I gave her some new words to teach her kids & I never saw a person shrink so low in all my life!!!

I used to be deli manager at the Safeway about 8 yrs earlier & so I knew most of the staff & they all laughed!!!


My Girls are pretty tom boyish, I cannot buy clothes for maddy unless she is there coz she flat out refuses to wear it!!!!