I would find it hard to put into words the reasons why I wanted another baby. If someone asked me, why did you want a 3rd?, I would just have to say, because I wanted to. It felt right, I guess. I didn't really think about things like giving my kids another sibling, or growing our family or anything like that. There was no practical reason why I wanted another one - I just did, simple as that. Can't explain it, it's just a maternal thing I guess.

Anyway, my point is, sometimes it's not as easy as just listing the reasons or the pros and cons. I did do that, to sort out my own feelings in my head I guess, but in the end it didn't have much bearing on our decision. DH wasn't that keen at first on having #3 but he came around (quite easily in fact, so he obviously wasn't that against it!) without needing a list or anything.

I agree with Cailin, it's not really fair for DH to impose conditions on you, like writing a list and hearing it once only. Also, do you think that the list will really change his mind? It sounds to me like he has already decided he is not interested in another and the fact that he will deign only to read the list once makes me think that it is more to humour you, than to really change his mind. Sorry if that sounds harsh, obviously I don't know your DH. I do hope that it helps him realise that this is something that is very important to you and worthy of serious discussion, with or without a list.