Thanks for all the help and ideas everyone.

We have started getting things into a better order. We cut the second nap and its really helping. We are still working it all out but at this stage, the later part of the day is set and seems to be working with dinner at 6, followed by a bath, some quiet play, some milk and then bed. I cant believe its going so well.

Now i just want to work on making sure she has an entertaining day- as in find some other things for us to do together.....