Hi Girls, DH and I have been talking about when we should try for number 2 - it took us two years to get our much loved Georgia because of two miscarriages, we wanted our children close together but like most people I guess we assumed that we would fall pregnant and have babies no worries - you dont think that you are going to ever have problems.
We originally wanted the 2 year gap etc. However we are worried that we may have problems again and think it is best that we start trying earlier rather than later as we want 3 - 4 children hopefully.
I am excited - I could not get to sleep when DH suggested that we start trying in october but I feel so guilty for Georgia I dont want her to miss out on anything if that makes sense. I am also really nervous about something going wrong or having horrible morning sickness like last time that lasted 17 weeks and pretty much kept me confined to the house.
I am trying to imagine how mums share their love - I know they do but the love is so deep. I love Georgia so much.
I would love to hear how you felt when you decided to have a second - what was your gap and why, what was it like second time around.
Sorry to rave on - I have so much stuff flying around in my head I just needed to write it down and I guess talk to all you lovely ladies about it.
I'll start.
We always wanted 4, and reasonably close together. DH's siblings are 4 and 8 years younger than him. That's a whole generation and he wanted nothing like that for his kids.
We started trying when Darcy was 6 months old...it took 2 years. When I did fall, I lost that bub at 12 weeks. I fell straight away and now have Nate.
When it took so long and Darcy got older, like you i questioned whether I could have the same feelings for another child, would I cope etc....don't worry, I think everyone feels like that.
Then i did fall, and all of a sudden I was worrying I was doing the wrong thing..then that baby passed away and I decided we were never having another because I couldn't do that heartache again.
Now Nate is here....well, I don't think it's even possible to describe, but I think the love just doubles, it doesn't halve or get split.
i can't have any more children due to some complications i had with Nate, and the day they told me that....there was the heartache all over again.
Georgia won't remember that she wasn't on her own. Heck Darcy doesn't and she's three. She won't remember that she didn't have to share, and she certainly won't hold it against you.
When she learns to talk and she says, "Mum, I love x so so much" you'll forget you even worried....I know I did.
Scared Excited Nervous Worried and Feel guilty
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