Welcome to motherhood
The first thing is to realise that housework really doesn't need tobe done. Dinner doesn't really need to be cooked, and what is most important in the day is feeling like you and bubs are coping with what you have to do with each other. So if you need rest, thats more important than housework and dinner.
You are sounding so stressed - and its completely normal, but maybe she is being an angel for daddy cause he is chilled out getting home fromwork, and you are wound up about needing to get things done.

Try to have a few days where there are no appts, andyou can just lounge around in your PJs doing nothing all day! Maybe put bubs in a pram and just go for a walk. I used to put my headphones on so I couldn't hear her crying .

Really - the only person expecting you to have everything done is yourself, and its pressure you just dont need at the moment. Now is about you learning about the wonderful thing you created, so please just try to relax and take a load off.

Good luck!
Fi