its an age thing i think. my son had trouble sleeping until he was 18 months old but at 2 yrs of age his doctor pointed out that he was partially deaf with lots of fluid on his ear drums and that his throat was almost closed over by his huge tonsils. it was the last thing i would have blamed his lack of sleep on but as soon as he was recovered from surgery he was finally sleeping! it was great. 8-9 months is hard because they are changing so much, with teeth and crawling and learning all the big stuff like words and pulling themselves up to stand. i found that every time i figured out a routine that worked he changed what he needed and it felt impossible. i just want to give lots of hugs! but know there are so many other mums tearing their hair out for the same reason! we've all been at that point, some more than others but there is nothing wrong with you or your parenting it really is just a matter of time x
Last edited by jett's_mum; October 11th, 2011 at 10:03 AM.
Thanks everyone for your replies. I find it hard to accept the age thing considering she has always been a bad sleeper as in she has never slept longer than 3hrs. And overnight is always 2-3hrly or more wake ups. If I don't get her to sleep during the day she is ever so grizzly. She rarely will fall asleep in my arms, if she did I'd be happy with that. Guess it's just something I'll have to put up with. But I'm just exhausted at the moment. I have been taking her for drive in the car to get her to sleep lately, and that'll give me at least 30mins.
Em - When she wakes at night is she actually crying/needing a feed or just stirring between sleep cycles? My little one wakes numerous times a night (they stir between each sleep cycle apparently) but is able to resettle herself. I found that when she was about 4ish months and woke at night she wasn't actually needing a feed but rather just needing a bit of help to resettle. For her, her dummy did the trick......if she isn't actually upset have you tried leaving her and seeing what she will do, or just trying to resettle without getting her out of bed?
EDIT: Sometimes my DD will wake and even have a little chatter to herself before going back to sleep 15-20 later.....
chody, it's crying and screaming til I feed her or she will stand up in the cot start chattering and then cry when she's had enough of that. Most of the time she is in bed with us. Had to go back to co sleeping to get some rest
yeah i remember crying at the end of my 10 month olds cot and my partner not understanding at all how tough it was to do it 24/7. is there anyone that could help even just for a bit through the day so you can nap? i went back into work/study when my son was 8 months and his naps got better within childcare because he was so worn out and all the kids were napping....but thats not really an ideal fixer upperer! but it does sound like you need some time out to just rest, ask your partner, family or close friends even to help you out so you can regain some sanity! she WILL grow out of it eventually
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