should we tell her?? babysitting question

[Olive]

DD's are being babysat tomorrow night by a mum for mothers group, bith girls should hopefully be in bed and asleep prior to her arriving-

-should we tell DD1? im worried if i tell her she'll mess around etc.. but worried if i dont and she wakes she'll get upset that someone else is there.

im leaning towards telling her but wanting some opinions first

[BrightSparkles]

Personally I'd tell her. That way shes prepared. Talk about it all day she gets the idea and is feeling comfortable with it. Hope it goes well. xx

[Tinks]

I'd probably tell her in case she wakes up and gets upset that you're not there.

[DaintreeDream]

I'd probably tell her in case she wakes up and gets upset that you're not there.

:yeahthat: Yep I would tell her, I would hate for her to be distressed if she wakes and Mummy isn't there.

[Ginger]

i would definitely tell her

[Olive]

awesome thanks girls!

[Erin_25]

yeah I would tell her. We have been sneaking out on DS for some time now LOL. Keeping him busy whilst I head to the shops or putting him to bed prior to our babysitter arriving. But just this week we decided he's now old enough for us to tell him the where we are going. As it just confuses him when he realises we are gone......so far its going well.

[Rouge]

I would definitely tell her. If you are worried you could have an incentive ie. If she goes to bed and doesn't be silly she can do xyz the next day, or she can have a special breakfast etc And you'll be asking xyz if she was a good girl etc. I think of it from their perspective they think you're going out to have fun without them and at the same time they are probably very excited at the prospect of being babysat. So if there is an incentive for good behaviour for the first few times they start to realise it's no different from any other night. We did this with both DD & DS when they were little, and occasionally if we are doing something out that they feel they will miss out on we'll do it then too.

[Olive]

well we did tell her, she slept the whole night so probably forgot that she was even going to be there!!

[Indadhanu]

LOL good one

[Reyna]

I would tend to go 'in between' here, and tell DD that such-and-such is coming over tonight - and leave it at that. That way if she wakes up, it won't be a total surprise that the friend is there, so she should be okay with it, (and the friend can put her back to bed saying that mummy will be back soon etc) but it's not going to set her up for a bad night (where she perhaps won't want to go to bed, or could wake up just because she knows you aren't there). Just a thought.

EDIT: oops sorry Olive, missed your post saying you'd already told her! Glad it worked out