It is very intense in the early weeks. Hang in there, it does get easier. And it's not too far down the track either. She is only very young and she probably does need to be cuddled and held a lot at this stage. Can you co-sleep? It was the only way we could get our DD to settle sometimes when she was very small. That and almost constant breastfeeds. I agree about the material that smells of you too. That may help.