:hugs: I know how you feel.
I went through something similar with ds, and it looks like dd is following suit and i'm desperate for her not to.
we road it out after many sleepless nights and had a vast improvement when we put him in a bed (king single room for an adult too)
I know it's wrong but I will happily let a child go to sleep with me and then move them to their own bed.
I can't give you any tips but like you I too would prefer a gentle parenting idea, i'm not a fan of people telling me that I have to do this and have to do that. etc etc and definetly don't do controlled crying.
I have been really tring hard to read the sleep cues for dd, and put her to bed awake, at the right time to self settle, sometimes i succeed but we are still fluctuating between getting up 3 times a night or what feels like every 30 minutes.
I miss rem sleep sooo much, and am constantly exhausted.
Is she teething?
DS was like this for months when teething. Nothing actually helped, I'm afraid. He just couldn't settle while he felt uncomfortable. As soon as theh teeth were through, he slept (until the next lot started).
Could you sleep on a mattress on the floor instead of bed - at least then you wouldn't have to worry about her rolling out.
I always just assumed it was her teeth, but she hasn't had any come through yet, and I don't see any activity there at all. I wish there was some way of knowing for sure.
I guess if that amber necklace helps, that will tell me. Gosh I cannot wait to get it, I'm depending on it for my sanity.
Doesn't help that DH refuses to help out in any way.
I am going to take your advice marcellus and sleep on floor; such a smart idea!
Any other suggestions are welcome.
i'm another fan of co-sleeping on a matress on the floor. ours is in DS' room as well - i like it in there because i feel like it's letting him know that it's his room. when he co-slept in our room, it just always felt so temporary.
I just noticed she is nine months which is prime bad-sleeping time. Search for some of my threads from the 8-10 month stage and I was loosing the plot.
It's a time of rapid brain growth, which is why she is unsettled.
Yes, DS' first 6 teeth coincided with the 8-10 month period (well, 8-11 months actually). It was hell. Then, I kid you not, that 6th tooth popped through and he slept happily with one wakeup for a feed. I went back to my own bed for a whole month (nearly) before we started the next lot of teeth.
The big problem is when there are underlying reasons for teh wakings - and some kids are just super sensitive to discomfort or developmental changes etc - then there really isn't much you can do if you can't address that particular problem. Ie, routines etc won't make any difference.
Hope the necklace helps!
The behaviour you are talking about (restless, won't stop squirming, comes to me for a cuddle, doesn't want a cuddle, whimpering in her sleep, waking up crying often) is exactly what DD does when she is in pain. Especially the whimpering/crying in her sleep, I really know something is up when I hear that. The things that have caused it so far have been teeth (when it went on for months) or a virus (only a few days). The other things that I had her checked for which were possibilities were ear infections and a UTI. I wouldn't think it would be a virus given that it has been going on for months, but it might be worth getting your GP to check for ear infections or a UTI or other similar things.
What is your gut feeling telling you might be the cause? My gut feeling when we were going through this was that it was teeth, and you know it turned out mothers instinct was correct. I understand what you are saying about wanting to be sure what is really causing the problem. Something that I did was put some teething gel on her gums when she was in pain. It did seem to make her feel better, and my theory was if teeth weren't the problem then making her gums numb wouldn't really do much for her IYKWIM.
Good luck, sleep deprivation is horrible. I hope the issue gets sorted soon.
I was going to ask if she is teething too as my DS was the same and it felt like just as one tooth popped through another come up. We ended up going to a sleep school and using 'comforted crying' I found it hell and didn't really solve anything. I wish I had some better answers for you.
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sleep deprivation is the worst
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