Im so confused! My dd Stella is almost 6wks old and has always been a 3/4 hourly feeder since birth.I was having trouble getting her back to sleep after her night feeds,she usually sleeps well during the day (2-3 hrs sometimes)so I know the answer is proberly too much sleep durng the day(?).Anyway,a few friends had suggested 'save our sleep' as a good guide to starting a routine,most of them saying in the same breath that it was pretty strict but had some good ideas.So after another sleepless night I decided to give it a go,and to be honest it did help me feel better.I have been following it pretty much word for word and I guess its not that much different to what we were doing before just with more structured feeding times (still 3 hourlyish) and Stella is just going with the flow so far (still not wanting to sleep after the night feeds though).

So,I thought I'd have a look on here and see if anyone was doing the routines too and was intrested to find that alot of people dont agree with them. Now Im not sure if I should keep going with the routine or not? Im kind of an all or nothing person so dont really know how to relax the routine and just use it as a guide? There's definatley things I didnt really agree on,like waking her for feeds or waiting the reccomended time before she's aloud to go to sleep! And the settling techniques seem abit harsh.As you can proberly tell I'm totally clueles and ANY advice would help

Also,any thoughts on the 'dreamfeed'? Should I try feeding her when she's sleeping or just wait till she wakes up on her own? Help please!