Thanks a lot he's pretty good anyway, happy to go down awake and be patted on the bum to sleep but he does have wind problems so often wakes only 10 or so minutes after falling asleep.
To be honest, I cannot deal with having another child who hates bed. We did sleep school, cc, and eventually crying it out with my daughter and it was a terribly traumatic time. I truly wish I could have just relaxed and let her go to
sleep as she chose to, not because someone had told me she had to. Hindsight is a wonderful thing but I'm
Determined not to make the same mistake again!
We choose our battles, sleep isn't one of them. It was years though but I'm glad I didn't push it. DD1 started sleeping through just before DD2 arrived to take over, so around 2yrs 9months but could self-settle a year or so before that. She is still fed to sleep often though.
On the plus side, she LOVES bed and often asks to go to sleep before the sun has even set. It has never been a negative for her.
I felt the same way after DD1, she was hell. In fact she was so bad, it was easier having her as a toddler and dealing with DD2 as a baby, than it was dealing with DD1 in her first year.
I sort of did with DD when she was around 8 months old, but soon gave it up as a bad joke. She always was a good sleeper though, would often just lay down after a bed-time story, snuggle up to her teddy and off to sleep.
So far with DS, I'm just following his lead. He feeds to sleep most of the time, but every so often he'll push me away and look at his cot. So I put him down, and he'll chatter/grumble to himself for a bit then nod off. I'm not messing with it, we're onto a good thing.
I don't want bed-time to be a stressful, negative experience. Cuddles, bed-time stories and wind down talking about our day all make going to bed a restful, relaxing time.
if it isnt broken dont try to 'fix it' is all i can say lol.
we never self settled with DD2 and she now does it all by herself (like a big girl lol). they get there in the end, and if his sleep is so solid, i wouldnt mess with it!
I think different bubs (and mummas) want and need different things. DD was never a self-settler but she is a gorgeous, happy 7 year old now! I will probably comfort other babies to sleep if that is what makes us happy too, but I wouldn't mind the convenience of a bub who was happy to fall asleep without assistance I guess!
Honestly in my opinion i think it depends on the child. DS1 self settled from about the 6 month mark and sleep was a beautiful calm place for him. DS2 did too, he was a bit more difficult at times but being in our arms to go to sleep was way too stimulating for him and he hated it. THEN DD came along... I have learnt that there is no way you can make her do something if she doesn't want to (took me 18 months) and i'm already runing scared for what i have ahead of me, neither of us like to give in I fed her to sleep, rocked her to sleep and as much as i loved to do it i also got very frustrated in doing it and it got to the point where it was getting harder and harder to get her to sleep. Would i change any of it?? Probably not, it worked at the time. I made changes when i felt it was needed and she has adapted really well.
My honest opinion is you need to see what it is your DS wants to do. Sounds like things are going really well at the moment so as most have said why make any changes when you are happy with the way things are. If later on you feel you want a change the option is there, he just may take to more than your DD did.
I never did self-settle. My son now asks to go to bed when he's tired, tucks himself in if I'm not around and goes to sleep. And he was a shocking sleeper. I nearly had a couple of sleep-deprivation breakdowns.
With Stormy, I'm going to be even more relaxed than I was with Liebs. I think that's possible...
DD2 already self settles . She was never cuddled or fed to sleep in the SCN, and at home I can feed her then burp, change bum, feed, burp, then wrap and put down to sleep fully awake and she takes herself off to sleep without fail. I saw no reason to break the habit now we are home.
he's pretty good anyway, happy to go down awake and be patted on the bum to sleep but he does have wind problems so often wakes only 10 or so minutes after falling asleep.
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. She was never cuddled or fed to sleep in the SCN, and at home I can feed her then burp, change bum, feed, burp, then wrap and put down to sleep fully awake and she takes herself off to sleep without fail. I saw no reason to break the habit now we are home.
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