I don't think it's bad lying down next to your child to settle them. We do this all the time. DH settles our 15 month old every night by taking him into our bed and patting him to sleep... then we carry him to his cot where he sleeps at least until 3/4am or about twice a week until 7/8am. If he wakes we bring him back into our bed and I BF him back to sleep and then return him to his cot... or sometimes let him stay. Maybe I'm too selfish to stay up comforting him... i just want to stay in my nice warm bed... if that means bubs has to join me then so be it! everyones happy!

You do what works... and what works changes all the time anyhow. We used this technique with our 4yo as well and now he is the easiest child to get to bed. I think the main thing is to keep your child feeling secure... then as they grow they will feel more secure NOT less secure which is the meaning behind the so called settling taboos. Many people think that if you allow your child to sleep in your bed that they won't want to leave it. Well our experience has proved that wrong wrong wrong! A child that feels secure as a baby is more likely to grow up to be a secure and thus more independent toddler. In the end most co-sleeping kids want their own space to sleep, safe in the knowledge that you will have them back if need be.

I'm not sure what's up with your DD... it could be so many things... but keep offering her comfort and I'm sure it will pass