Give Dad one job that he does and you do not... I recommend this to EVERYONE... I gave my ex and my DH the job of bathing the baby... I only did it if and when there was an emergency while they were out and bub needed a bath due to an "explosion" that way they are the experts in this area and if I do end up doing one while they are around I can ask them for help... great bonding time for bub & dad but also gives you 20 odd minutes for just you do something...

It did help that they both got a "lesson" in hospital while I was bed bound...