Oh I know how hard this can be Tegan. Until Jacob could talk, we had some doozies. He was very frustrated at not being able to be understood.

I think the main thing I can suggest is to be consistent in your approach. We always give Jacob a warning, i.e. "do that once more and X will happen" and then follow through. E.g. if he throws a toy, we tell him "We don't throw Jacob, if you throw your toy once more, it will be taken away for the rest of the day". It took a long time for him to understand this, but he does now! Distraction can be a good tool - for a while. We still have times where distraction will work for Jacob, but not always!

We too give Jacob time out, but again, only after we have warned him that that is what will happen. We also ask him to say sorry and give a cuddle and kiss (so that he understands that he can do something constructive to 'fix' whatever happened) and then MOVE ON. I think that's the best thing - not to dwell on the mistake or bad behaviour for the rest of the day and go on to a totally different activity........

I'm not sure this has really helped Tegan - hang in there!