hI Enigma!

NO YOU ARE NOT SELFISH! Having kids should be a joint decision and although your hubby wants more he should realise it takes $$$ to have them and relying on government payments doesn't always get you through the hard times. I have a best friend who is an only child and although she sometimes wishes she had a brother or sister at other times she's glad she doesn't because she gets her parents full attention.

My hubby and I are happy with Aleise and there are no plans for another. I had a very difficult pregnancy and had to go back to work when Aleise was 5 months because we need the money. We also want to send her to a private school (we are Catholic) and that costs money too! If we do change our minds then I will have to start trying in 2008 because I'm 36 and will be 37 in March.

Remember you're still young and have your whole life ahead of you - enjoy Aneta first then decide later if you want another one. My OB told me that most people don't cope unless their babies are at least 2 years apart - and for those of you who have kids closer than this and can cope then well done!