My DH works away a fair bit. We live 3000km from family too. When I was due my mum came up for a few weeks to help out. I was induced, so she was able to drop my older 2 off at daycare for the majority of my labour. DD3 was born while mum was out picking them up. DH was home for the birth and was able to take a couple of weeks off, but when he went back to work I still had a nb, an almost 2 year old and a 3 year old. I just did what I could, the important things like dishes and washing were all I could manage for a little while. We also had to stop daycare during this time for financial reasons. Don't pressure yourself to be immaculate, as long as you home is hygenic the rest can wait.