Here are the steps we do:
1. Give 1 warning - if they do it again they will go on the naughty chair
2. They do it again, put them on the chair
3. Get down to their level and explain why they are on the naughty chair.
4. They spend on the chair one min for each year of their age eg. 2 years old = 2mins on the chair
5. If they get off it, place them back on the chair without talking to them and remain consistant with this.
6. When they have done their time, again come down to their level and explain again why they were put on the chair
7. Apology. I get DD to say sorry for what she's done so the word sorry doesn't become an empty word. Eg. Sorry for hitting S.
8. Kisses and Cuddles.
We have been doing this since Miss J was about 14months. We have a chair that is ONLY used for naughty chair. She knows when she's placed there she has to stay there. It is REALLY tiring at times, but the longer you remain consistent the better result you will gain. Obviously the age that each child begins to understand will be different, but I found by then they are beginning to understand right and wrong.
If i'm out at the shops/playgroup I still do naughty spot. I've been known to sit her next to the wheel of my car in a car park also!
We do the naughty corner here - cos no matter where we go, there are always corners to be used (friends house, supermarket etc)
It works well, usually we just have to threaten with the "do you want to go into the corner?" and they stop the behaviour. However, if it is hitting, pushing, bullying of any type - no warning, straight in the corner. This behaviour is not tolerated in our house whatsoever. Both kids hate being stuck in the corner, so they are generally well behaved most of the time.
And sometimes they don't want to stand in the corner, so I hold them there. May seem a bit cruel to others, but if they've punched a sibling or something, they have to do the time for their behaviour. I usually hold their head in place for about 10 seconds and then they get the point that they HAVE to stay there. That rarely happens though, they pretty much know what to do when it comes to corner time.
But like I said - they aren't sent there that often because the threat usually works
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