Oh I can so relate to these stories! DD was exactly the same up until she turned 3, and no matter what we tried including prune juice, incentives, etc she refused to do a poo unless in a pull up. SHe would hold on for days at a time and do stinky farts and refuse to admit that she needed to go. One day she accidently did one on the toilet when she went to the toilet with one of her friends and friends mum and she was so proud of herself. After that she slowly came to the realisation that it was ok to do one on the toilet.

Oh we were pulling our hair out at times, but she never once had an accident in her undies or anything. She just did not want to do one on the toilet. I hate to say it but it is simply a matter of time.