The really scary thing is that I could have written your post about my 10 year old DD (with a few obvious changes )
I am not sure the frustration ever goes away. The details of what we're frustrated about just change.
I think all we can do is keep breathing and do the best we can to remain calm and patient. Easier said than done...
That's about it. Sometimes I cry. I absolutely loathe mornings. I was almost 1.5hours late to work this morning. All because DS wanted to do something but didn't tell me until I realised he was upset & asked him by which time it was too late. Sorry I'm no help, but I hear your pain. And yeah, DS is now 3 & if anything, it's worse. I'm not looking forward to DD reaching that stage.
I know the feeling as well my DD is 2 1/2 and wants to do everything herself although she only ever says "I'll do it" and when we ask what "it" is she won't tell us and then will have a tantrum if we do the "it' she wanted to do.
I feel that by the end of the day my negotiation skills have waned and I just need to get things done, and with having the twins trying to be a bit more independent it makes it hard trying to dress/change nappies for 3 squiriming, wriggling kids. Luckily the boys haven't hit the full on demanding stage yet, I know what each scream, yell or cry from them means I'm hungry, I'm tired, I'm sick of my brother and sister
Oh Fiona I could have written that post too! DD is also nearly 21 mths and is Miss Independent too.
I am slowly going crazy. The lovely days we used to spend together (I work 3 days a week) are becoming tense and (how I hate to say this) sometimes I look forward to going to work. Gah that makes me feel horrible.
She won't let me change her nappy, kicks me while lying on the change table, won't let me pick her up (does that thing where she outs her arms straight up so you can't pick her up - where do they learn this?!?).
Anyway - I have no advice but hun you are not alone!
Some things that have been working lately. I make sure to dress DD1 first in front of DD2 and give DD1 heaps of praise for standing up and putting one leg into her pants and then another. DD2 has been noticing this and she wants the praise too. Doesn't work every time, but there has been improvement. I still let her have a bit of a go herself but if we're pushed for time and she's still struggling with nappy (pull-up) and pants then I say "mummy do it after 3" and give her a count-down.
I know what you mean MrsP and having what used to be lovely days turn into a wrangling match!!!
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