Thanks guys - glad I'm not the only one.

Some things that have been working lately. I make sure to dress DD1 first in front of DD2 and give DD1 heaps of praise for standing up and putting one leg into her pants and then another. DD2 has been noticing this and she wants the praise too. Doesn't work every time, but there has been improvement. I still let her have a bit of a go herself but if we're pushed for time and she's still struggling with nappy (pull-up) and pants then I say "mummy do it after 3" and give her a count-down.

I know what you mean MrsP and having what used to be lovely days turn into a wrangling match!!!