I'm not coping so well with the transition from 1 to 2 kids. I feel totally out of control and exhausted. DD is a handful, she's a demanding and testing child. She's a very busy 3yo, who knows what she wants and doesn't want. I struggle to discipline her and keep her under control her behavior at times is intolerable. When I have both kids on my own I struggle to do anything. Going to the supermarket etc etc. I feel like a total failure as I'm not parenting her how I would like. I'm so exhausted and I loose patience with her disobedience. I try everything to get her to do things like go to bed, eat dinner, pick up her toys, get ready, brush hair etc etc I ask her nicely, I ask her firmly, I bribe, I threaten to take things away and in the end I'm so frustrated I end up shouting and loosing it. DH works long hours and is rarely home for bed and bath, I feel like a terrible mum and a failure how can I not cope with 2 kids like everyone else. I don't have family help and se days when both children are screaming and demanding my attention I just hate it and my mind fills with resentment that this is how my life is.
Please don't get me wrong I love both my kids more than life itself but it's just too hard at times. I need a good nights sleep, I need tools to deal with DD. I'm lucky as DS is fairly chilled, but am not getting enough sleep at night. How can I get through this without damaging the kids and breaking me?