i had 21mths between my first two children and 4 1/2yrs between number 2 and number 3. both were great yeah sure the 21mths apart were busy and tiring, but i made sure every morning that i showered after i fed ds (before dd woke up) then i would make a huge platter of snacks and made up drinks etc for me and dd so when i did need to sit down and feed ds then i would grab the platter and drinks out, we also had a favourite book that was read during feed times. i remember the special moments when ds went to bed at night, my dd stayed up later for her special cuddles. i found that ds just slotted into doing all the things dd was doing eg playgroup, swimming etc - and consequently alot of the playgroup mums had their 2nd babies around the same time.

4 1/2 yrs is great - ds is a wonderful help with lani, and she just adores her big brother and loves nothing more than meeting him after school with big cuddles - if anything i am busier and doing alot more now cause i am running ds around to school and after school activities, so we don't get to stay home as much.

you know what it just all works out in the end and you just cope, somedays i look back and think how the heck did i manage to get all that done and why am i so tired, but wouldn't change anything for the world.