Thanks for your reply Spring Angel. Your comment about me being "acutely tuned into" to his noises gave me a laugh.

He is so loud the next door neighbours can hear him !! The noises are just so loud and aggressive it is hard to accept that they are nothing and that he isn't uncomfortable.

DS is currently napping and probably due to wake for a feed. He has been grunting, moaning etc for the past 45 minutes or so - all this noise makes it hard to take him to certain places where he would be too loud.

This has been the longest 4 weeks of my life !!
Thanks again for your advice