Urgent! Secondhand smoke and bub

[Traveller]

A few more articles

BBC NEWS | Health | Smoking outside 'harms children'
Neuroscience for Kids - Nicotine, Second Hand Smoke, Infants

[Janie71]

I was told that even if a smoker does not smoke around a child, changes their clothes after a smoke and washes themselves that it still puts a child at a higher risk of developing asthma. BUT I am pretty sure that would probably involve repeated exposure.

I think you should just be firm with your MIL and say that it is your choice that you do not want your DD exposed to any of the toxins. If she questions it remind her that she is YOUR DD and it is YOUR choice.

GL!
Janie xxx

[luna moth]

I was told that even if a smoker does not smoke around a child, changes their clothes after a smoke and washes themselves that it still puts a child at a higher risk of developing asthma. BUT I am pretty sure that would probably involve repeated exposure.


GL!
Janie xxx

That was enough for us to say no. FIL didn't hold our [very healthy] DD until she was 4 months old. And even then it was only for 5 minutes before bathtime. Hubby copped a punch in the face for it (long story) but we both still think it was worth it.


You can say no. Be strong, and stay strong, for your baby girl who needs your protection. Look up "third hand smoke" and you may find more, but Trav has done some good work for you already.

[Charlotte91]

Thanks, guys. And thanks for the links, Trav!!
Third hand smoke bought up alot of good stuff, too.

It looks like DD is getting a cold. An even better reason to say no to holding.
MIL hasn't seen DD since February. We made plans to see her, but she always cancels. Long story. She think I'm a biatch anyway. I am. But I'm usually pretty good at hiding it, bahaha.

It's going to hurt DP by not letting anyone hold her, as its not just MIL. Its all MIL's and FILs family, its SIL's engagement party... And we want a picture of DD and DP's grandfather, as he's got lung cancer. Not sick at all, but you never know when he's going to drop off.

I think that I'm just going to have to say No. Gah, this is going to end badly.
MIL already hates me because we're only invited one of her brothers to our wedding, instead of 2 more brothers, 2 more sisters, and other family. Long story. Again.

Thanks so much, guys. Still not look forward to tomorrow and the weekend.

[Teeki]

Stay strong hun. It'll probably suck, and your MIL will probably hate it, but tough. You are your daughter's advocate, you need to stand up for her rights - in this case, her right to be healthy and not exposed to toxins unnecessarily. Just because your MIL wants a cuddle is not a good reason to give in. And hey, if she already doesn't like you, what does it matter if she doesn't like this either lol. I honestly think you'll feel better knowing your daughter is safe and healthy than trying to get your MIL to maybe warm to you.

Would also be good if your DF was on your side - show him Trav's articles, explain why your MIL won't be holding your DD, and get him to enforce it with you. Good luck for tomorrow and the weekend!

[Just Me]

Here is another good article on smoking - http://www.sidsandkids.org/wp-conten...ds/Smoking.pdf