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And to be contrary, my velcro bub today spent 5 mins with his 16 yo cousin before needing to come back to me! And a couple of mins with his grandfather!
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Lol Snowy..we had the opposite day..starting when I got out of bed to go to the loo this morning, leaving DD with DF in bed and she screamed until I got back...haven't been able to be out of sight of her all day and she barely let me put her on the floor so I could make lunch & dinner! It was a day full of tears
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I'd reply to this thread but the baby won't let me out of his sight ...
Makes showers/toilet/doing the dishes/anything a bit tricky at the moment ...
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Hehe i'm with you there... i shower when DD is asleep OR i put her on the floor in her elmo thing, and i have to sing to her the entire time i am there, she also sits on the bathroom floor at times while i go to the toilet (away from me obviously), the Jolly jumper is great now when i do the dishes but when she was smaller i used a carrier.. umm until i noticed she was getting longer and dancing in the sink water
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Hope tomorrow is a better day ss_storm
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Hi. Count me in too. I had a clingy baby who is now a clingy toddler. At about 2 months of age DD suddenly didn't want anyone else other than me. Not even her own father. So I was doing everything for her on my own most of the time because she would scream if anyone else tried to do anything for her. It has gotten easier over time thankfully. I think being more mobile helped and when she became more aware of things helped too. Also spending more time with other people. But she is still a very clingy child! And will want me to do most things for her still. But thankfully other people can mind her now without tears. It's just if I am around she'll choose me over anyone else who's there. But when she's ill she becomes super velcro child again and I can't get her off me till she is well again.
TBH I have felt suffocated by her at times, which I know is a terrible thing to say. But I just feel like I don't get enough breaks sometimes. During those times I try to remember that it is just a phase and one day she'll be off on her own in the world and I'll miss all the hugs I used to get.
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think I found the answer to her recent super-clinginess! I can't believe I didn't notice before now, but her first molar has just come through and there are also two white dots on either side of her bottom front teeth so they should pop through any day. Probably why she woke up screaming just before I went to bed last night and took ages to calm her down (either that or she had a nightmare..).
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SS - Poor little munchkin, her teeth must be giving her hell! Hope the rest pop through quickly so you can both get some relief
No news from me, DD still up to her old tricks. My poor Dad came over today with a present, and I handed her over for a hug, and on cue she screamed in his face. he couldnt give her back quick enough. I felt so bad
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Hands up!
I have a velcro baby too, has been ever since she was born (now 14m) - she still won't go to anyone else if I am around, and will cry as soon as someone else picks her up.
I don't have any tips - just sympathy~
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Can i just ask how your little velco babies interact with other kids?
I was watching DD today and she's really not a very sociable little thing at all. When there's any more than a couple of other people she sits on me or stands right by me clinging on and doesn't interact with the other kids. She'll play with a toy buy generally if one of the other kids goes to take it she just lets them. Today she cried because one of the other kids in out MG grabbed her sleeve, not at all hard or aggressive or anything, but it freaked her out. She's ok when there's just one other baby/family - she likes giving toys etc to the other baby, but as soon as there's a crowd she's a hundred times more stuck on me! I can't work out whether it's just to do with her clinginess or if she's shy or something too.
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Well my Moo spends most of MG trying to crawl all over me! He just wants to be with me and whinges til I pick him up. But sometimes he surprises me and plays very happily next to the others. I find he is better if I arrive early to things. He seems to react badly to walking into a room full of people; can't blame him though as I don't like it either!
Today we all went out to a caravan and camping show in Melbourne. DH had to push the stroller so Moo could see me! God forbid if DH walked into a camper trailer ahead of me.
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DD usually bursts into tears if another kid touches her. She might be alright at first but if they hold on then she'll start crying. I think our main problem is that we just don't interact with many other people. Haven't been to playgroup for a while so will be interesting to see what she's like when it starts again after school goes back. she does like watching the other kids play, she is still too young to join in though and might be easier when she can walk on her own, but she doesn't like strangers touching her. Can't really say I blame her, I probably wouldn't like it if a stranger just came up to me and grabbed onto me!
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Hmm, well my DD seems to be bucking the trend, she loves other babies. That's one time when she actually doesn't mind go to others. At mothers group she happily sits and plays with the other bubbas, and even gives some of the mums cuddles
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my DS loves other kids as well. it usually takes him a little while to warm up, but then he's fine. in fact, he loves to hug & kiss the other babies at playgroup - it gets a bit embarrassing as he tackles them to the ground to give them a really good hug.
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My DD is very clingy at MG too but she does love some other kids that she sees more regularly.
My DD is more afraid of men than women. Is this the case with other clingy bubs too?
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wow, lots of us! its good to know im not alone and havent caused this, as i constantly get told its my fault for bf or being a sahm, or not attending a mg, or not letting anyone touch dd as a newborn or whatever reason each person comes up with thats either not true or utterly ridiculous.
dd has been like this since 11 weeks and has only the last few weeks been happy to go to dh for cuddles, but she will still cry for me after 2 mins. she has never gone to il's and screams like crazy if i hand her over, while koala hugging me.
its frustrating when you want them to have cuddles with someone, but at the same time its nice to be so wanted and needed.
guess we just have to hope it will ease in time
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Jen82 - I feel like people blame me too.
I keep getting told that DD is much better when I'm not around. Do others hear this too?
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oh yes all the time
I dont know whether ppl mean to blame us or its totally inadvertant... Either way the comments dont help
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