I know Sam's a bit older, but he's been on this schedule for a while now.

He wakes around 7am, and his first nap usually starts between 9:30 and 10.

If he's not already awake, we wake him between 12 and 12:30 - otherwise he has a tendency to sleep until 2!

He then goes down around 3:30 for an afternoon sleep, gets up around 5.

BUT - dinner at 6:30 and bed time at 9 works for us as DH doesn't get home from work until after 6 and this lets them have father-son time at some stage in the day.

I figure that Sam can drop to one day sleep when he can have it late enough in the day for it to work for us - until then, he gets two day sleeps which we shorten for him if he doesn't wake up on his own. I know we're transitioning to one sleep, but we're not quite there yet, and I figure his day will need to shorten a bit when we do, it won't be such an issue when I'm at work and DH is at home (next month!) but for now it works for us.

I know it feels mean, but I'd wake her when you need to in order to ensure that her next sleep happens at the right time for her bed time.

BW