I think that every single mum goes through these thoughts and xycles of excitement versus worry when they are planning for or expecting another child. Absolutely it changes dynamics when you add a second child into the mix and there ar ethose moments when u just want a break but it is wonderful. I think having a second is the same as your first, at the beginning you struggle as you try to sort everything out and then you get into a bit of a rhythmn with it and its those moments from time to time, like sickness or tantrums that can ruffle our feathers a bit.
I don't think at all this means you're not ready for a second now, and definitely doesn't mean you should never have a second. You are only being a responsible mum, wife and woman when you are considering the impact having another child will have on your family, it would be very unusual and a bit worrying I think if you were going to have another child and give no thought to the impact it might have! I don't think that you'll ever get to a point where you will be able to plan having another baby without being a little anxious!
We felt this way when started thinking about number 2, and also the other big one was can we love another baby as much as we love our first (highly irrational but we loved DD1 so much we didnt see how it was possible to love another as much as we loved her)
but it was all good.
as soon as we were pregnant the love started flowing and when she was born it was just the same as DD1.
it hasnt been easy, the newborn stage was easier than where she's at now with not sleeping and teething, u do get frustrated and angry and short with ur other child, but u quickly make up for it.
DD2 slipped so easily into our lives that it was like she'd been here forever.
its hard when ur sick, but luckily we have family close by who's more than willing to take the day off to look after DD1 while i recouperate.
Cant be all that bad, we're already trying for number 3
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