Thanks ladies. I wish it were all more 'natural' you know?!

I will def try that book though. And there is some logic in the just go out and see strategy -- but I am so nervous! Maybe that is part of the problem?

My current logic is that I will wait until after this heat wave of course (45 degrees in Melbourne -- yay -- not!) and I would like to wait until he has passed 18mo. I have heard the sep anx lessens?

I have just noticed that he stays asleep longer when I put him down into our bed straight off -- as I have just done tonight -- whereas last night he had already woken a couple of times he has been asleep now for an hour. Maybe there is something in the amount of space he has in the cot?

I have tried milk then breast but he rejected the milk. It may be a situation of just not being there ...