Arrggghhhh DD is driving me batty. She used to be a great sleeper and settler until about a month ago. She has been wrapped in a muslin for sleeps since birth, which in itself is not a problem, but since just before Christmas she has been fighting the wrap when I settle her to sleeps (day and bed for the night). I've tried settling her without it - no go, she flails her arms and keeps herself awake and annoys herself (rubbing her face, nose etc). I tried a swaddle bag (Love to Dream Swaddle) which didn't really improve anything, I've tried a grobag (still have the flailing arms problem).

She also has this annoying habit of rubbing her feet together which keep her awake and annoy the crap out of her, so I've put socks on her (even in hot weather) to stop her chaffing the skin, she rubs them with some force! This doesn't solve the problem as she will still rub them together but at least she isn't scratching/hurting her skin. She is clearly tired and I've tried putting her to bed at the very first sign of tiredness, quite drowsy or letting her get very tired (eg falling asleep in the bouncer).

I've tried feeding her to sleep (works sometimes), rocking her, bouncing her, cuddling her, laying her in the cot (she just stays awake and eventually gets upset), laying with her etc etc. She's just so unpredictable. I know there is a wonder week around her current age (25 weeks), but this has been going on for the better part of 3-4 weeks now.

I'd really like to wean her from the wrap, especially in this hot weather, but I am at a loss as to how to do it and get her to sleep successfully.

Once she is asleep, she'll generally nap for 1-2.5hrs which is great, and overnight feeds once, sometimes twice (this isn't a problem as she falls asleep on the boob in the middle of the night and I can pop her back in the bassinet asleep) and she is in bed at 7pm, awake about 630am, but the debacle to get her to sleep for the night and for day sleeps is draining me, sometimes it takes 30-45mins+ to settle her, what am I doing wrong? She has just gone from 3 to 2 day sleeps (just following her lead)

I am seriously thinking that if she is going to fuss and cry while I settle her I may as well just let her cry it out, however I am not at all fond of this approach so wont be doing it. Currently I have just decided if she is going to carry on so much I just stop trying to put her to sleep after 10 or so minutes and bring her back out to the living area where she fully wakes again and I try again when I see more tired signs. I have a 3.5 yo so I need to share my time with him also.

Any other ideas, I am totally at a loss. Am I missing something?

PS. Baby Wearing isn't a solution either, she wont sleep in it currently