What the heck can I do?? I'm at my wits end!

[boomba]

Oh hun please dont be angry and dont be angry wiht him...he doesnt understand that there needs to be cleaning done or chores to do...al he thinks of is he wants his mum and why wont she hold me why is she busy?
I know chores have to be done but he can probably sense you getting agitated and its affecting him.

Flynn is the same at the moment...I am doing everything one handed cause he wont go in t ergo lol He will grow out of it.......Just try to relax and maybe leave the housework till later when he sleeps agian. My house is a mess but I would rather the kids be happy than me being angry with them while I clean x

Dont be too hard on yourself xxxx

[OceanPrincess]

Oh LizJessie You sound like you're at wits end indeed.

If it makes you feel any better we had people round last week and I hadn't vacuumed. I totally apologised and it was horrible, I felt like the worst mother/housewife/hostess ever but I just could not get it done.

I am sure they will understand if the house isn't spotless...

Can you take DS out in the pram for a walk? Maybe it'll calm you both down.

What happens when DP is home? Can he take him for a bit, so you can catch up? Or what about when he is asleep tonight?

Can you outsource - get someone else in to clean??

[sloane]

from someone with another velcro baby, it does get frustrating sometimes! especially because when they do normally sleep, the last thing you really want to do is clean because you usually need some down time to relax. i agree with a couple of other posters - would he sit in his high chair & have a snack while you did some stuff - if he could be in the same room? that's the only way i can get the dishes done!

i found 6-7 months quite tough before DS crawled because he was his normal cuddly self, but he was also so frustrated because he wanted to be crawling & mobile. i did find that he settled down a bit once he started crawling & he could follow me or play (or destroy!) with different things when he wanted to (rather than me trying to work out what he wanted to be doing).

i'm still getting the sep anxiety now - i try telling him when i leave the room & so on but sometimes it works & sometimes it doesn't!

i hope he settles for you soon & let's you get something done

(and just ignore your DH or tell him he's on baby duties while you clean!)

[chepie]

Hun go make yourself a cuppa!!!! My household is the same... Charlotte is attached to me 24/7!! I can't leave the room to even pee!! And my little man cracks it if I am not sitting down playing with him or if Charlotte touches his trains!!! You should see my house at the moment the loungeroom is covered in a massive train track with milliions of trains everywhere!! So hun I really understand and it is hard not to get cranky.... but go have that cuppa tea xoxo ....

Yesterday I had a playdate at my house and I was really nervous about it running around the house yesterday morning trying to vaccuum, make cupcakes, clean clean clean like a maniac - then realised that I didn't have any coffee and thought god how on earth am I going to get to the shop in time??? In meantime the kids are screaming at me ahhhhhh- so I stop and made a cuppa and thought stuff the coffee, stuff the cleaning - this is my place and its never gonna be perfect when you have kids!!! And people do understand and really don't expect you to be super woman!!! You are a super muma!!!! I guess my long winded response is that its ok that things don't get done and dh should walk a day in your shoes- I have said this to mine many a time!!! Love and hugs xoxoxo

[Arimeh]

Just wanted to give you a big

Is there any way you can do the stuff at another time? I know Eden has been a bit clingy lately and I just put her in a sling and she's fine, but thats hard if they are washing! Lucky I have enough to choose from I suppose if one is in the wash

Do you have a bumbo? Sometimes I put Eden in the bumbo in the middle of the kitchen bench, and she watches me cook (which I know doesn't sound safe, but the other kids are usually on either side of her, or I'm watching like a hawk) and she seems happy with that.

Or I put her on the play mat in the room that I'm in and talk to her while I do something.

Umm.... do you have a dryer? I found DS would be happy to sit in the washing basket watching the dryer go round with clothes whilst I did whatever I needed to.

[Jewel]

Big huge hugs.
It's always when we have loads and loads of things to do when they're all clingy and don't want to be put down.

Sorry I don't have anything else to add that the other wonderful ladies haven't already mentioned.
xox

[ElleJay]

Thankyou all so much for your input.

I managed to get some stuff sorted in the living room. It's not as clean as I want it to be right now, but I did the best as I can with a velcro bub (love that saying btw sloane!), then I strapped him in his car seat in the car cause I REALLY needed to clean that out (we couldn't see the floor, it's that bad) and he happily played with his toys attached to the carseat. Then went to pick up his dad from work and take him to golf where I managed to do some of the kitchen and hang out a load of washing before he started going off again.
At least I got SOMETHING done today

[Ozziehoffy]

Then went to pick up his dad from work and take him to golf where I managed to do some of the kitchen and hang out a load of washing before he started going off again.
At least I got SOMETHING done today

I gotta say... why is he having a go at you about keeping the house spotless when he's off playing golf and having time to himself??? Couldn't he be helping you? This is just my opinion, but YOU aren't the only person to contribute in messing up the house. I expect help cos I have a velcro baby also and it's hard! It's so hard to clean when you are holding them, it's so hard and can be dangerous holding them trying to cook... and omg I usually have Elijah cracking it and/or literally trying to climb my legs when I go to the toilet!

I know I found it really hard to do, but I just had to "not care" so much. I had to just do what I was able to do and not stress about it. I'm thinking you probably were feeling angry because you were thinking how your DH was going to react when it wasn't all done. They don't see the velcro baby all day, every day. It's not attached to them. Sometimes they seriously think we have all the time in the world to keep the house sparkling, so far from the truth it's not funny.

My DH vacuums and last night when I finished my shower I sprayed the cleaner in it and told DH he needed to clean it before he had his shower. There are definitely areas of my home I'd like to be able to "sweep under the rug" though cos it annoys me but I have to just think... well, they're little and only "need" me for a short time and this will still be here tomorrow... *sighs* lol.

hope you feel better hun.