What the heck can I do?? I'm at my wits end!

[chepie]

Hun go make yourself a cuppa!!!! My household is the same... Charlotte is attached to me 24/7!! I can't leave the room to even pee!! And my little man cracks it if I am not sitting down playing with him or if Charlotte touches his trains!!! You should see my house at the moment the loungeroom is covered in a massive train track with milliions of trains everywhere!! So hun I really understand and it is hard not to get cranky.... but go have that cuppa tea xoxo ....

Yesterday I had a playdate at my house and I was really nervous about it running around the house yesterday morning trying to vaccuum, make cupcakes, clean clean clean like a maniac - then realised that I didn't have any coffee and thought god how on earth am I going to get to the shop in time??? In meantime the kids are screaming at me ahhhhhh- so I stop and made a cuppa and thought stuff the coffee, stuff the cleaning - this is my place and its never gonna be perfect when you have kids!!! And people do understand and really don't expect you to be super woman!!! You are a super muma!!!! I guess my long winded response is that its ok that things don't get done and dh should walk a day in your shoes- I have said this to mine many a time!!! Love and hugs xoxoxo

[Arimeh]

Just wanted to give you a big

Is there any way you can do the stuff at another time? I know Eden has been a bit clingy lately and I just put her in a sling and she's fine, but thats hard if they are washing! Lucky I have enough to choose from I suppose if one is in the wash

Do you have a bumbo? Sometimes I put Eden in the bumbo in the middle of the kitchen bench, and she watches me cook (which I know doesn't sound safe, but the other kids are usually on either side of her, or I'm watching like a hawk) and she seems happy with that.

Or I put her on the play mat in the room that I'm in and talk to her while I do something.

Umm.... do you have a dryer? I found DS would be happy to sit in the washing basket watching the dryer go round with clothes whilst I did whatever I needed to.

[Jewel]

Big huge hugs.
It's always when we have loads and loads of things to do when they're all clingy and don't want to be put down.

Sorry I don't have anything else to add that the other wonderful ladies haven't already mentioned.
xox

[ElleJay]

Thankyou all so much for your input.

I managed to get some stuff sorted in the living room. It's not as clean as I want it to be right now, but I did the best as I can with a velcro bub (love that saying btw sloane!), then I strapped him in his car seat in the car cause I REALLY needed to clean that out (we couldn't see the floor, it's that bad) and he happily played with his toys attached to the carseat. Then went to pick up his dad from work and take him to golf where I managed to do some of the kitchen and hang out a load of washing before he started going off again.
At least I got SOMETHING done today

[Ozziehoffy]

Then went to pick up his dad from work and take him to golf where I managed to do some of the kitchen and hang out a load of washing before he started going off again.
At least I got SOMETHING done today

I gotta say... why is he having a go at you about keeping the house spotless when he's off playing golf and having time to himself??? Couldn't he be helping you? This is just my opinion, but YOU aren't the only person to contribute in messing up the house. I expect help cos I have a velcro baby also and it's hard! It's so hard to clean when you are holding them, it's so hard and can be dangerous holding them trying to cook... and omg I usually have Elijah cracking it and/or literally trying to climb my legs when I go to the toilet!

I know I found it really hard to do, but I just had to "not care" so much. I had to just do what I was able to do and not stress about it. I'm thinking you probably were feeling angry because you were thinking how your DH was going to react when it wasn't all done. They don't see the velcro baby all day, every day. It's not attached to them. Sometimes they seriously think we have all the time in the world to keep the house sparkling, so far from the truth it's not funny.

My DH vacuums and last night when I finished my shower I sprayed the cleaner in it and told DH he needed to clean it before he had his shower. There are definitely areas of my home I'd like to be able to "sweep under the rug" though cos it annoys me but I have to just think... well, they're little and only "need" me for a short time and this will still be here tomorrow... *sighs* lol.

hope you feel better hun.

[~clover~]

Glad you got some stuff done hun.
Oh I remember those days! So not looking forward to the again. I used to sit DS in his rocker while i cleaned the girls rooms so he could see me & at your DS's age he sat in the high chair with food so I could clean the kitchen & cook.
Out in the pram for washing (that was fun when it got cold!) & in the walker alot for everything else. Walkers aren't reccommended, but are an awesome invention! Specially with toys on the tray

[ElleJay]

Ozzie - He goes to golf once a week because it's his 'him' time. My break is going to work (You can see where the priorities lie to me)
I've constantly told him that if he finds the place a mess that he could help out and I say the exact same thing as you 'It's not just me that makes a mess you know!' which then consistantly turns into the whole 'but your at home most of the time, I dunno why you can't do a little bit every day, it won't get this bad if you do'
To which I say I have 'It's too damn hard when he's this way'
I could honestly smack him so hard in the head sometimes (DH, not DS )
I'm feeling better now. I've been awake for an hour (worked last night and working tonight - DS is with my ILs) and I've done nothing except for get myself something to eat and it feels GREAT not doing anything

~clover~ - Yep, we put the walker right near the back door so he could see me, but I kept disappearing behind clothes so he'd keep whinging.
Thank goodness I'm getting most of the day to myself today (as bad as that sounds)

[~clover~]

Sounds good to me! Enjoy! I crave days with out my kids & hate weekends & school holidays! I'll admit it

[Ozziehoffy]

Ozzie - He goes to golf once a week because it's his 'him' time. My break is going to work (You can see where the priorities lie to me)
I've constantly told him that if he finds the place a mess that he could help out and I say the exact same thing as you 'It's not just me that makes a mess you know!' which then consistantly turns into the whole 'but your at home most of the time, I dunno why you can't do a little bit every day, it won't get this bad if you do'

I still question why he gets "HIM" time and you get to work? Seriously, I question that and him having a go at you. You are not only dealing with the house, a velcro baby and work... you are also dealing with him saying that you could do a bit each day and it wouldn't get that bad. Well, I wasn't too good at maths, in fact, I hated it. However.... according to my calculations, you have 3 people in the house contributing to the mess. One is not yet able to assist in the upkeep of the home. However, 2 are and yet only 1 is?? So, even a bit each day would keep you behind the eight ball would it not? There are seriously some weeks where I get not a lot more done other than washing!!! (Of course the dishes and all of those things are done)... I have 4 other people in the house and I know that I try to do just a bit each day BUT.... if you are having to do stuff another person has left there then there goes your "few mins" doing that and not something else! Does that make sense?

I have heard the excuses from men before about "it's my me time going to golf/pub/etc"... but seriously, where is the me time for the mum?? Where is the assistance there? If it's not recipricated (sp?) then I don't see it being a fair share of the workload etc. Until you have walked in the shoes of the other, then don't go casting the stone. Is your bub bottle or bf?? If bottle, I'd almost be tempted to leave him with him for a day just to show him a small window into your WHOLE week! It can really open their eyes.