What the heck can I do?? I'm at my wits end!

[ElleJay]

Snowy White - If only DH would take DH golfing with him. He usually goes straight from work with the person he goes with (as they work together)

Onyx, I think that when I get angry again, I WILL take him for a walk - Just because of what you said - about tending to not yell at them in public

Ozziehoffy - Hun, thats EXACTLY what I've said before. "Where's my 'me' time? I never get any at all!" to which he says "We get to go to poker" - BUT! Who's the one that's tending to him while we play and he grizzles? Who's the one that feeds him, changes him, rocks him to sleep and usually misses out playing a few hands because they're they one trying to settle him down?? Me! One of the reasons WHY I went to FF (Health issues was the number 1 reason) was because DH had always said 'If I could help with the feeding, then I would help out more' - I usually have to twist his arm to feed him.

black_rose - I wish I had friends. I know, this sounds horrible, but the people I'm friends with are my workmates, and are full time whereas I'm only part time so they're working when I'm not and visa versa. I'd love to have a girls night out one day, but then inside, I'd feel horrible for having some time for myself.

cherished - Thanks for the idea my lovely. I had been given that idea when he was 2 months old and completely forgot about it! Thanks!

[KimB]

" I'd love to have a girls night out one day, but then inside, I'd feel horrible for having some time for myself."

Don't you dare feel bad about having some me time. We as women are conditioned to feel as though if we are not giving to our families then we are failing at our job. This is not true. If we do not regularly recharge the batteries with just some me time then the family unit tends to break down. I hope you understand what i'm trying to say

I've learnt over the years you just have to tell DF/DH "ok it's your turn tonight to watch bubs - I'm going out" and if they put up a stink tell them "fairs fair" . You need the time off too especially if the only time you get out of the house is to do some more work. You need some fun time or peace time or silent time not just mum/wife time.

Don't forget you are still a person and deserve exactly the same as everyone else .

Good luck

[Ozziehoffy]

"Where's my 'me' time? I never get any at all!" to which he says "We get to go to poker" - BUT! Who's the one that's tending to him while we play and he grizzles? Who's the one that feeds him, changes him, rocks him to sleep and usually misses out playing a few hands because they're they one trying to settle him down?? Me! One of the reasons WHY I went to FF (Health issues was the number 1 reason) was because DH had always said 'If I could help with the feeding, then I would help out more' - I usually have to twist his arm to feed him.

Well, the poker seems to be for both of you and NOT just for you to have your own "me" time. As for the FF thing... ya know what I'd do one weekend... get the bottle ready, hand bub and bottle over to him and say .. oh I forgot I have an appointment, I'll be back a bit later... and go!!! Go and have a coffee on your own, have a wander at the shops, get your hair done or something.. just take some time to be with yourself seriously! You can do it and you NEED to do it. You need to do it for yourself, for your DH and for bub.

KimB.. so, so well said hun!!