My 7 month old DS is being a right royal s*** right now!
I have SO much I planned on getting done today and he's just being impossible. He's not tired, just waking up from a 20 minute sleep bout an hour ago (less than that actually), had a feed just before going to sleep (so that's bout an hour and a half there - and he feeds at least every 4 hours, sometimes not even that!), he's not in need of a change because I changed him when he woke up.
He's crying whenever I leave the room to put dirty dishes in the kitchen, he's grabbing at everything even though I've given him toys to occupy himself and he just refuses to sit in either of his rockers (one is a sitting up one, and the other is a laying down one - and the laying down one he's trying to sit up)
I was going to put him in the pram, but if he's being like this in the rockers, he wouldn't be any different in the pram.
I am honestly at my wits end! I've got AT LEAST another 3 hours of cleaning to do, have to pick DH from work in 3 hours and with the way this boy of mine is going, I'm not going to get anything done because all he wants is to be held (and the two sling/carriers I've got are in the washing atm as he threw up all over them a while ago and have only just had the chance to put them in the wash)
Has anyone got ANY ideas?? I've even put a show on that I know he likes, and he won't shut up in that either!
ARGH!!!
It's so frustrating, but it's also very normal. All my bubs have done this to me from time to time! DS2 was an absolute velcro baby and I couldn't get anything done EVER! DD gets extra clingy when she's tired, sick or teething. Not much I can do apart from cuddle her until she's happy to be put down again, then try and run around and clean/work while I have the chance LOL!
I found when she was around 7-8 months, separation anxiety set in and she would cry if it even "looked" like I was about to walk away from her.
More hugs . I hope you get what you need done eventually
hun
the sling is the only thing i would suggest
as trish said- its a normal developmental thing
you can either fight it or go with it
sorry i cant be much more help
it is a phase and they will pass through it
hugs
Trish, DS has had a cold for a week now, but he's not been like this at all during the week he was sick which is so frustrating! That's exactly what he's doing too - If I take 1 step around the corner and he can't see me looking at him or in his presense, he is horrible - and that's been for at least 2 months now!
Ali - I wish he was crawling - though he's not and he's still really trying. I should just try the pram - I'm just sick of this happening. Every time I need to do alot of cleaning, I can't get it done because he's always like this, then I get the 5th degree from DH saying the house is never clean which peeves me off so much!
He's now rather happy that i'm sitting down with him, but kicking the laptop whenever I type
*det* - Thanks for the suggestions.
blackrose - I have been giving him cuddles for the past half an hour, which is starting to get me more worked up. And I need to get this cleaning done as we're entertaining people on Saturday night and I've got work tomorrow night and Friday night and tomorrow is usually spent trying to relax for work that night and then Friday is sleeping during the day for work at night then Saturday will be me sleeping while DH has to get work done for the week ahead before we entertain people that night *sighs*
JUST as I typed up the thread, he'd pooed, so I'll change him and see if that makes a difference. Though I'm just really really angry right now
Last edited by ElleJay; June 2nd, 2010 at 02:19 PM.
Oh hun please dont be angry and dont be angry wiht him...he doesnt understand that there needs to be cleaning done or chores to do...al he thinks of is he wants his mum and why wont she hold me why is she busy?
I know chores have to be done but he can probably sense you getting agitated and its affecting him.
Flynn is the same at the moment...I am doing everything one handed cause he wont go in t ergo lol He will grow out of it.......Just try to relax and maybe leave the housework till later when he sleeps agian. My house is a mess but I would rather the kids be happy than me being angry with them while I clean x
Oh LizJessie You sound like you're at wits end indeed.
If it makes you feel any better we had people round last week and I hadn't vacuumed. I totally apologised and it was horrible, I felt like the worst mother/housewife/hostess ever but I just could not get it done.
I am sure they will understand if the house isn't spotless...
Can you take DS out in the pram for a walk? Maybe it'll calm you both down.
What happens when DP is home? Can he take him for a bit, so you can catch up? Or what about when he is asleep tonight?
Can you outsource - get someone else in to clean??
from someone with another velcro baby, it does get frustrating sometimes! especially because when they do normally sleep, the last thing you really want to do is clean because you usually need some down time to relax. i agree with a couple of other posters - would he sit in his high chair & have a snack while you did some stuff - if he could be in the same room? that's the only way i can get the dishes done!
i found 6-7 months quite tough before DS crawled because he was his normal cuddly self, but he was also so frustrated because he wanted to be crawling & mobile. i did find that he settled down a bit once he started crawling & he could follow me or play (or destroy!) with different things when he wanted to (rather than me trying to work out what he wanted to be doing).
i'm still getting the sep anxiety now - i try telling him when i leave the room & so on but sometimes it works & sometimes it doesn't!
i hope he settles for you soon & let's you get something done
(and just ignore your DH or tell him he's on baby duties while you clean!)
Hun go make yourself a cuppa!!!! My household is the same... Charlotte is attached to me 24/7!! I can't leave the room to even pee!! And my little man cracks it if I am not sitting down playing with him or if Charlotte touches his trains!!! You should see my house at the moment the loungeroom is covered in a massive train track with milliions of trains everywhere!! So hun I really understand and it is hard not to get cranky.... but go have that cuppa tea xoxo ....
Yesterday I had a playdate at my house and I was really nervous about it running around the house yesterday morning trying to vaccuum, make cupcakes, clean clean clean like a maniac - then realised that I didn't have any coffee and thought god how on earth am I going to get to the shop in time??? In meantime the kids are screaming at me ahhhhhh- so I stop and made a cuppa and thought stuff the coffee, stuff the cleaning - this is my place and its never gonna be perfect when you have kids!!! And people do understand and really don't expect you to be super woman!!! You are a super muma!!!! I guess my long winded response is that its ok that things don't get done and dh should walk a day in your shoes- I have said this to mine many a time!!! Love and hugs xoxoxo
He seems to be going through separation anxiety. Is he crawling yet? If he is then see if he will follow you.
You could try putting him in the pram or high chair and push him into the kitchen or around as you clean, sure it will take more trips doing everything 1 handed, but that adds to the amount of exercise you do and hopefully he will be quiet enough to get some done.
Our place is open plan so I put Leah around the middle of the house and she can see me in most rooms but she still whinges every now and then, but I cant drop everything to be with her the second she starts to cry IYKWIM. Dont beat yourself up is he cries for a minute or 2 while you do something.
You need more of a break than just work, it's not the same. Can dh go to golf one week and then you get time to catch up with girlfriends or just do something on your own?
We have had a busy couple of months with dh working late and on weekends, he has gone 4wd the last two weeks but this weekend i have said enough so I am leaving him with the girls while I go to the market after a sleep in tomorrow.
It's hard when they are so young and dependent on mum but you need time out and it helps later on if they know daddy can give them comfort and playtime.
What the heck can I do?? I'm at my wits end!
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It's so frustrating, but it's also very normal. All my bubs have done this to me from time to time! DS2 was an absolute velcro baby and I couldn't get anything done EVER! DD gets extra clingy when she's tired, sick or teething. Not much I can do apart from cuddle her until she's happy to be put down again, then try and run around and clean/work while I have the chance LOL! 
I totally apologised and it was horrible, I felt like the worst mother/housewife/hostess ever but I just could not get it done.
And my little man cracks it if I am not sitting down playing with him or if Charlotte touches his trains!!! You should see my house at the moment the loungeroom is covered in a massive train track with milliions of trains everywhere!! So hun I really understand and it is hard not to get cranky.... but go have that cuppa tea xoxo .... 
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