I just spoke to DH about this AGAIN...lol... I just can't get this off my mind. He's leaning towards taking him but if he reacts then we go, no getting in the water or anything. With his very first lesson where he was going, he cried, but only after getting in the water. The next week they said to bring him early so he could get in and have a play to get comfy being in the pool and this worked brilliantly and the next week he was jumping to get in for his lesson. I asked if we could do this and she said no and also didn't answer when I asked if we didn't continue lessons there cos he was still afraid if we could get money back, she just avoided it with saying oh I've never met a child who didn't get over it.... you just need to give them a good few lessons. That didn't sit the best with me and on the way home I was almost in tears. I think for a mixture of reasons, being that I kinda didn't like that they seem to be so "this is how we do it and it's the same rules for everyone" (which is what they do say - if we let one then everyone else wants to... ummm riiiight) and also I thought OMG have I just lost $70!!! There's an enrolment fee plus lessons. *sighs* have I made a mistake???
Celsie, exactly!! I don't want him to be afraid. We live in QLD and we're surrounded by water. He needs to know how to swim or at least get himself out of trouble.
Krissy, it was REALLY strange, he just kinda started to breath a little faster then cried.
mrsmac, that is true... this is why I think I've been struggling a bit with this decision... babies and animals have amazing instincts so I haven't been sure if it was him being scared or if he's warning me IYKWIM.
Hon, imagine that place in summer - if its hot and stuffy in the middle of winter, imagine what it will be like mid February...nah, its your lil mans and yours recreation time, you want to enjoy it. Why put him thru that......
I would give consumer affairs a call. Explain that you can't take you son, because he's terrified of the "tent" like structure they have covering the pool, yet you can't afford to lose $70. I'm willing to bet that they'll say you're within your rights to ask for a refund, considering he's never even got so much as a toe wet.
Cass, I'd trust your instincts on this one.........by all means take him to swimming lessons, but GO SOMEWHERE ELSE. Oscar is obviously unhappy in that place, and it doesn't sound like you were too pleased either. It's just too important IMO. It must be hard for you, but I really think he's trying to tell you something.
As a rule i never ignore an instinct, no matter what the cost. Call the people Celsie mentioned (it's a different agency in the UK) and see about getting a refund.
to you all and thank you all so much for your input. It really can help to make things clearer in your own head.
mbear, they apparently roll the sides of the tent up in summer, but all the same it was terribly stuffy in there.
Celsie, great idea!! Thanks for that hun, I will look into that Monday and yes, I will let you know.
Janie and hoobs, true, true, true!! You would think that the older we get the better we would get and trusting our little niggles!
Lulu, it was very thick and stuffy air which may have been the reason he did that short breathing before crying. I can't ask him unfortunately!!
I've been thinking on and off about this today and I kept debating about calling or not calling them and didn't call, but I can do that tomorrow or we can go there and I'm almost certain that I won't even need to take him near the pool before he'll react and that will be enough for me to go shopping instead! Seriously though, I kinda have a feeling that I won't take him cos I just feel like that now. DH does have a say, but if I really feel this way he won't do it either. He may want to go and just see the place though and that's ok with me cos he won't force anything.
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to you all and thank you all so much for your input. It really can help to make things clearer in your own head.
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