I would give consumer affairs a call. Explain that you can't take you son, because he's terrified of the "tent" like structure they have covering the pool, yet you can't afford to lose $70. I'm willing to bet that they'll say you're within your rights to ask for a refund, considering he's never even got so much as a toe wet.
Cass, I'd trust your instincts on this one.........by all means take him to swimming lessons, but GO SOMEWHERE ELSE. Oscar is obviously unhappy in that place, and it doesn't sound like you were too pleased either. It's just too important IMO. It must be hard for you, but I really think he's trying to tell you something.
As a rule i never ignore an instinct, no matter what the cost. Call the people Celsie mentioned (it's a different agency in the UK) and see about getting a refund.
to you all and thank you all so much for your input. It really can help to make things clearer in your own head.
mbear, they apparently roll the sides of the tent up in summer, but all the same it was terribly stuffy in there.
Celsie, great idea!! Thanks for that hun, I will look into that Monday and yes, I will let you know.
Janie and hoobs, true, true, true!! You would think that the older we get the better we would get and trusting our little niggles!
Lulu, it was very thick and stuffy air which may have been the reason he did that short breathing before crying. I can't ask him unfortunately!!
I've been thinking on and off about this today and I kept debating about calling or not calling them and didn't call, but I can do that tomorrow or we can go there and I'm almost certain that I won't even need to take him near the pool before he'll react and that will be enough for me to go shopping instead! Seriously though, I kinda have a feeling that I won't take him cos I just feel like that now. DH does have a say, but if I really feel this way he won't do it either. He may want to go and just see the place though and that's ok with me cos he won't force anything.
Is there any other time slots available at the place where you used to take your little one to swimming lessons? If he was hapy there and you liked it then it seems a shame you have to change just cos they moved his lesson earlier. Maybe if you ring them and explain about the earlier time just not being practical and you need to leave and find another swim school they may be able to offer an alternative. I would find it hard to believe that anyone would let customers go in these times.
I wouldn't take him to the tent place though, it sounds alwful to me and your little boy is trying to tell you something. Also is he old enough to ask him which he prefers? I did this with my daughter when i swapped her ballet school after a bad experience, she was only 2 and i didn't think she'd understand but she did!!!!
Kiki... I have spoken to his old swim school and they used to have 2 lessons on a Sat morn but have cut it back to 1 (they cut the later one being Oskar's) for this term cos too many people just weren't coming due to it being cold weather. I totally understand why they've done it, just doesn't work for us unfortunately and it works for most of the others as their bubs wake early - 6am etc. Apparently next term they will probably have 3 classes so I have actually already asked her to put him down for next term with them. I didn't want him missing a whole term cos they have to then relearn a bit.
I haven't asked him, didn't think of that as he's only 16 months old, however he might surprise me as he does let you know when he wants something. He is quite a strong willed little man...lol. You could be very right in him trying to tell me something, it was a strong reaction from him and not the usual "that's not what I want to do" type.
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to you all and thank you all so much for your input. It really can help to make things clearer in your own head.
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