I found getting DD to help as much as possible helped a lot. Getting a spew rag, getting a blanket, getting the wipes made her feel so important.

I tried not to push her away, unless DS was asleep or extremely cranky, I let her nurse him whenever she asked.

Even though DS learnt very quickly to close his eyes when he wanted peace from his sister, it wasn't long until his eyes lit up every time she came near..