What are your 'rules' about people smoking around your children?

[*LittleMissSummer*]

As long as its away from my DD and the smoke doesn't blow in her face i am not bothered. I have had strangers, mostly teenagers deliberately blow their smoke at my DD and i have let them have it!

[Tinks]

I don't think you're being unreasonable. I was a smoker until recently and I hated my kids being near me while I was smoking.

Charlotte, how do you police your 40 minute rule??

[*TripleJ*]

DH smokes outside DS has a habit of going near him when he smokes but he gets shooed away so theres no smoke near him i just dont like ppl smokin near them but i have heard not sure i believe it though that babies breath it in off ppls clothes but my mum and stepdad smoke and my kids have been near them constantly with no ill effects
i dont like it when we go places where ppl smoke inside even though now its few and far between

[Doing my best]

Not being unreasonable.. I don't like anyone smoking near my kids. My SIL does smoke, but always away from the kids. When we are visiting, if mine follow, she will either go out the gate (and lock behind her), or put it out..

When my IL's were here for 3 months, towards the end, I saw MIL watching the kids in the sandpit, and she was smoking. I was furious. I spoke to DH and said that it isn't on, but he didn't say anything. As I don't have the best relationship with her, I asked FIL to tell her that it isn't on, and if she wants to smoke, I would prefer her to say that she doesn't want to watch the kids.

[Starlite]

DP and I are non-smokers, so are my parents. The only smokers are DP's parents (who are separated)

FIL and his partner are good. They dont like smoking near him, so Ive never had to really voice my opinion on it. They go outside, and stay away from him for a while after. Sounds silly, but they are what I call 'clean' smokers.

MIL on the other hand. Will light up whenever she wants. FFS! I have made such a big deal about it and she still does it. If she does, I will take DS and walk away. There's no telling her. Instead I make a BIG deal about moving away 'from Nanny's disgusting fumes'. She's also what I term a 'dirty' smoker. She has stained hands and teeth, always stinks of smoke and has smokers breathe. She also leaves her container of rolling stuff sitting around. Ive caught DS in the process of removing the lid, god knows what he would have decided to try eat!

I dont think your overreacting. Its such a disgusting thing to be exposing a nice fresh set of lungs to!! Stand by your guns!!