What are your 'rules' about people smoking around your children?

[Starlite]

DP and I are non-smokers, so are my parents. The only smokers are DP's parents (who are separated)

FIL and his partner are good. They dont like smoking near him, so Ive never had to really voice my opinion on it. They go outside, and stay away from him for a while after. Sounds silly, but they are what I call 'clean' smokers.

MIL on the other hand. Will light up whenever she wants. FFS! I have made such a big deal about it and she still does it. If she does, I will take DS and walk away. There's no telling her. Instead I make a BIG deal about moving away 'from Nanny's disgusting fumes'. She's also what I term a 'dirty' smoker. She has stained hands and teeth, always stinks of smoke and has smokers breathe. She also leaves her container of rolling stuff sitting around. Ive caught DS in the process of removing the lid, god knows what he would have decided to try eat!

I dont think your overreacting. Its such a disgusting thing to be exposing a nice fresh set of lungs to!! Stand by your guns!!