Very common - i thought we were unusual because we've done exactly the same (snoring and he needs sleep to function to a high level in the day) but the more i mention to people IRL our arrangement, almost everyone has done a similar thing at some point.
For us it's been going on almost 6 years and will soon cease (when my DD3 finally decides to sleep.....that's another post!!) but we're very happy with the set up and we all get a better quality of sleep because of it. DH also gets up at 6am and i'm normally resettling or have just resettled and it would make me angry if he was in bed and then the alarm went off whilst i was dealing with DD3 so we're all happy with it.
For us, it's a temporary (although has been 6 yrs) situation and we'll be back in the same bed when all the kids are sleeping. Having said that he's going to need to do something about his snoring!!!
We have always tried to maintain the bed as ours (Dh and mine). My DD co-slept/bed shared up til she was 18 months. She is now in her own room in a king single bed. She moved when i was 6 months pregnant and since then DS was born, so DH has done alot of the settling of her since then. DH will move to her bed if she won't settle, or if he is too tired to try to settle her.
We have a bit of advantage in that DH is a shift worker and does night shift 2 out of 8 nights. So on those nights i get to stretch out and now can have DD and DS in with me if necessary (one either side). And DH gets to stretch out when he gets home and sleeps during the day.
DS sleeps the first part of the night in a hammock and comes into our bed at the first feed. I am the one who spoons him and keeps him safe. I will leave him in bed with DH if DH has slept the night in bed, but not if he has just come off night shift because he sleeps more heavily then. DH is much more aware of position in bed now than when we first started bedsharing with DD.
We co-slept from day one with both babies and my H and I share the bed. Baby sleeps in the middle. There have been 2 or 3 nights that my H has slept on the spare bed but only when he's been sick so he would wake up the baby too much with his coughing.
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