I have a 2.75yr age gap between my first born daughter and little bubby boy. I am finding it very tough. She is right at an age where she is struggling emotionally, you know the 'terrible two's' which I have discoved means 2 years long instead of 2yo.

Just as he was born, she exploded. She is having tantrums, feeling very alone. trying for attention, and is just plain miserable a lot of the time. We are very nurturing, but are having a real struggle with this age gap.

If I could go again, I would love a 4 year age gap. They are just over that hard time, and old enough to understand a bit more when you don't have the same amount of time for them.

I would either go for a shorter age gap or a longer one, not the terrible twos.

Linda.