jessica

when my dh and i first discussed having #2 (my dd was 12mths old) i was a little apprehensive, i really didn't think i had enough love for another child iykwim - anyway we thought we would start trying as it took us around 2yrs off and on to fall prg only to miscarry at 11wks then a further 8mths to fall prg with jessie - little did i know ds jay wanted to join our family right away - he was born when jess was 21mths. i found it fine - jessie was still having a morning and night bottle and she was still in nappies but everything was fine - they also both seemed to have their sleeps in sync. the most important thing i found i did was to spend quality one on one time with jess when jay was having a nap and we always did something special. back then my dh worked night shift so it was busy and at times tiring but at the end of the day both were sound asleep by 7.30pm and i could have time out.

when jay was 4 1/2 lani came into our lives and it has been easier, jay understands that babies can take alot of time, and he has a busy little social life now so that keeps him quite happy and they way he looks after his baby sister is just lovely, he is gentle and caring and always looking out for her. we have problems tho, for eg leggo - he cant play with it as much as he used to as lani is on the move, so he quite often plays with it whilst she is asleep and makes sure it is all packed up before she gets up.

we are ttc #4 atm - i would ideally love for lani to be a little older as i know it is going to be a bit harder with me being older etc but for me the clock is ticking (will be 37 in a few weeks) and my personal cut off is 38.

i think you just know when you are ready for another and it just kind of works itself out.

good luck in what you decide.