Where to go Sleep School? I need help i've had enough!!!

[*EJ*]

I think it has to be done, DD's sleep is shocking for the most part. I've tried to just deal with it, accept that it's her but i know in my heart and in my mothering instincts that it isn't good enough.

Yes i'm a little nervous to go but i also don't want to keep going on like this.

Nights she is waking about 3 times so we're getting about 3-4 hours between feeds. Days she has two sleeps a day, usually about an hour at time if i'm lucky but lately she's been having half hour naps.

So i've been on the phone to QEC last month and they woudn't take any bookings and are currently closed. I was also told they were booked up for 3 months.

My understanding is Koo Wee Rup is for babies under 12 months.

Where else can i go, i'm located on the Mornington Peninsula but will obviously have to drive some distance if necessary.

[FabFiona]

Try O'Connell family services. They are part of Mercy Health.

[*EJ*]

Thanks for that, i just tried them and they are closed for the Christmas break also. They're back on Monday, i'll try then.

Feel so tired and furstrated and i just want to cry. I feel like it's my fault that she's such a cr@ppy sleerper

[MamaPan]

depending on $$ available tresillian also have tresillian at home - they will come to you amd help (they dont stay overnight but it is helpful)
i found i could get them almost immediately for some help (with eating not sleep but they do all sorts of things). i think it was about $300

so isnt your fault - but i know how you feel. x

[~me~]

Sleep Rescue come to you 94391367 (they were on the 7pm project).
Tweddle 53 Adelaide Street Footscray VIC 3011
(03) 9689 1577

[LimeSlice]

Night Nannies will also come to you, and work on the No Cry Sleep Solution philosophies.

[*EJ*]

Thanks ladies.

MamaPan i think Tresillian is only based in NSW, but i see what they offer is pretty though

Thanks Heather i just tried Sleep Rescue, she reccommded an overnight stay which will cost $540. I would seriously consider it but i better talk to DH first.

[HotI]

do you know what you want to focus on? (e.g. no night feeds or no wake ups ...)

have you read the no cry sleep solution?

[tilygirl]

My sister went through Rosebud Hospital, stayed for 5 days last year.
Have you tried there?
It's a public though so I am assuming their would be a waitlist.
And potentially a referral was required from her GP but I can't remember.

Good luck xx

[*EJ*]

HotI i bought the book late last year and from reading that i have made some changes. She was feeding to sleep no questions asked but we're not so stuck with that now. The process of getting her to sleep can vary now as to what she will go along with (each day is different with her) but i think my main issue is the lenght of her sleeps.

Oh MamaPan i had no idea, let me know what you come up with

Tilygirl i just tried Rosebud and they are shut until feb, most i have called open on Monday.

LimeSlice i will try Night Nannies

[FabFiona]

Maybe we can get a group discount!!

[onthefly]

Hi EJ, sorry you're having a hard time still. It's not you, ok? Have you ruled out all likely suspects - teeth, illness, developmental leap, food sensitivities etc?
Also, before going ahead, have a think about what you want to do exactly - your goal - and what you're willing to do (so you don't get pushed into something you're not really happy about).
All the best

ETA - and for what it's worth, she sleeps a lot better than my DD So if you're a crap mother I'm a shocking one.

[HotI]

Hi EJ, sorry you're having a hard time still. It's not you, ok? Have you ruled out all likely suspects - teeth, illness, developmental leap, food sensitivities etc?
Also, before going ahead, have a think about what you want to do exactly - your goal - and what you're willing to do (so you don't get pushed into something you're not really happy about).
All the best

ETA - and for what it's worth, she sleeps a lot better than my DD So if you're a crap mother I'm a shocking one.

That was kinda what i was trying to say! (and when my DD was 12 months, i must have been a shocking mum too!- we had break throughs around 12 months, 15 months & 18 months)

[meow]

and for what it's worth, she sleeps a lot better than my DD

I was thinking the same! If it's any consolation to you, my son who is a month older sleeps worse than that. He has 1x 60-90 min sleep a day and wakes about every 2.5-3 hours overnight.

[RhiChiChi]

Crap, sorry Hun I used it when DD was 10 months old and she is now 4.5 yo. I cant believe they are no longer offering it. They must need the beds for maternity or something else. I know there was a lady whom used the service twice, so there was a demand. I know my gf used Tresillian but they were quite rigid. Best of luck, I hope you can sort something out ASAP. I know my gf used one of the services at home and she loved it. If you have no luck getting into a program I can get the details and PM u.

[*EJ*]

Bad night....

I just got her up and gave her to DH, i'm a little too upset to be with her right now.

Yesterday she had one morning sleep, maybe the 40min to hour mark. Then in the afternoon she missed it. This is what i battle with, her sleep is such a mess and it's probably really important that we don't miss them but do i stay home all day every day (especially with the shcool holidays, no activities at the moment) just to make sure she gets another hour??? Yesterday we went to visit family of mine and the kids got a play in the pool, they loved it. I felt they needed something most of this week has been spent at home.

So DD had maybe 5 min in the car at about 4-5ish and then woke up once home. We had dinner and a bath and she was in bed on 7pm. Then she woke about 10:30pm, was a real bugger to get back to sleep, i think she was finally alseep by 11:30pm. She woke again at 2:30, 3:30 and was up for the day at 5:50am. I fed her in the dark, no talking, put her straight back in her cot but she was chatty the whole time. I laid on the bed next to her cot hoping she'd relax and have at least another hour but no. I fed her every time she woke.

Girls i'm sorry for those who are dealing with even more sleeplessness and are able to cope with that but i just can't anymore. I've reached the end of just being able to go with it. I don't want to resent her for my lack of sleep and her lack of sleep. When i'm on the verge of tears waking up especially after crappy nights it's not good.

So last night i had a good look at a food/diet website (Thanks Willow) and i'm seriously going to look into diet for all of us. I believe i'm pretty good with our choices but maybe i'm not good enough. There's not use doing some sleep training if it's these outside factors that are messing with us. MadB i really do hear what you're saying

I'm try but it's just so hard sometimes.

[RhiChiChi]

Koo Wee Rup is only a day service, but it might be enough to help you out. Otherwise we went private through South Eastern Private Hospital. I got a referral from my GP and ensured that the referral was covered via my private health insurance, just had to pay the hospital excess. GL

The other thing was it was a five day stay & DH could come along, which he did. They took all our family history, as well as birth history, feeding history etc... and asked what we wanted to do ie: white noise, music, dummy, sooky toy - for sleep association and they had some other mother benefits too like a relaxation night, a dads night where the Dads come in and got to chat to a male social worked & had pizzas (men only), we also spoke to a Dr to rule out PND etc...

[MamaPan]

i asked Dh and i am pretty sure we used tweddle at home. mainly bc they could come right away and to me. i am not 100% sure - that period of my life is a blur. it didnt work miracles (i think i breed kids that start to sleep well at 2.5 yrs ish) but they did help. they were good at helping me to determine what i wanted to achieve and what i would be comfortable with. they also heloped Dh and i get on the same page.