Teni I found what worked with my high-energy DD is telling her what to do, as opposed to what NOT to do.

So instead of saying "No hitting", "no climbing", "don't do that", you tell her how you expect her to behave. So if she's wriggling and kicking during a feed, you say "DD, lie still while mummy is feeding you, or the feed will end. We lie still while we are having a feed." And you give her a few chances to behave the way you want, then follow through if she doesn't stop - end the feed.

With my DD, we had to set a few "rules" - and the word "rule" really helps - the rule for playing with other kids was "Keep your hands to yourself", so no hitting, biting, pushing. I'd clap my hands together at my chest while I said it and soon enough DD was copying me. Now I've started it with DS, too.

The other rules we have are "We sit on our bottoms on the furniture" so no climbing or running or jumping on couches/chairs/beds, and "Stay in bed and stay quiet until the sun comes up".

You need to work out consequences that are acceptable for you and DD both, when enforcing any sort of rule.

Oh and she can absolutely understand most of what you are saying by now! Don't let her sweet little smile fool you She knows!

Hope that helps.