Advice needed for 22 month old toddler (BOY)

momos26 · February 21st, 2008, 08:54 AM

I have a 22 month old and in two weeks I am due to have a baby girl!! My husband and I both work full time and we are taking off a week of work when she is born but we don't know whether to keep our little boy home as well from daycare??

Were worried if we don't, he will be jealous which isn't the start we want for him. But on the other hand he is settled at day care so we don't like breaking his routine......

He understands that I work from home, so I think it might upset him that the baby is at home with me whilst he hasn't to go to school?? Also he knows my husband goes to work early in the morning and if he is home when my little boy goes to school he puts on tantrums because he wants to stay with us for the day.

Any advice in this area would be great. THANKS

**Arimeh** · February 21st, 2008, 09:04 AM

I'm not sure if this helps, but we are planning on keeping DS in day care for one day, and then one day with MIL and one day with my mum - just like he does at the moment so it keeps him in the same routine, so he sees that having a baby doesn't really change his life too much!!!!!! Thats the plan anyway... plus, it will give me one on one time with the new bub..

Good luck!!!!!

DoubleK · February 21st, 2008, 09:05 AM

could you perhaps take him for a couple of hours a day? so that he can also spend time at home with the new baby? or let him have a day off? im not really sure, as Krystal doesnt go to daycare!

good luck with the new arrival!!

**Snoopea** · February 21st, 2008, 09:20 AM

When I had my son my daughter was 2.5 years old, she was attending daycare during the week. We kept her home for the first week with us, she was devistated and kept getting her day care bag out. The second week we placed her back into daycare and her mood improved. The last thing she was worried about was her baby brother, she wanted to be off with her daycare friends.
Every child is different, but if i was to do it again, I would still send her to daycare. She just didn't cope with the change of routine was upset all the time and didn't enjoy being home with us. You could always send him into daycare and pick him up if any problems arise. I found that most children are more upset by a change of routine than a new addition. Hope this helps.

Snoopea

momos26 · February 21st, 2008, 09:30 AM

thank you all for your comments - i know he absolutely loves his day care friends so I think i will keep him in his usually routine and maybe pick him up a little earlier so he then still gets some time at home with us.

You all had wonderful advice and I will take all of it on board.

M

**~Trish~** · February 21st, 2008, 05:33 PM

I recommend keeping his routine too. Although our 3yo DS wasn't in daycare, he found it very overwhelming to have his daddy home as well as having a new baby in the house. Having DH home was actually disruptive to him because DH didn't follow our normal routine and there were lots of tanties going on. When DH went back to work I found our DS calmed down too. I guess children find security in routine so it is probably best not to throw too many changes at them at once IYKWIM.

Best of luck with your new baby!