Thanks for your comments.
I am not trying to stop all his night feeds, but cut them down a bit. Waking every 2 -3 hrs (on a good night) for a feed during the night has me exhausted.
But its the habit of the waking every half hour after going to bed for the night is the habit I was refering to. He dosent really need to wake so soon after having a big feed.
We have co- slept up till about a week and half ago. We have decided we need more sleep than co - sleeping was giving us.
I have had awful sleep issues with this baby for 8 months and we have the Pantley book. We feel that ds is ready now for self settling, and based on what we know of him, i think he needs a bit of tough love... but obviously tough love done with tenderness, hence me asking for some advise.

Lulu, what age was your DD when you helped her settle by staying in the room?