AImes, if you want one hunny, you go right ahead. Obviously if people don't agree with them then they'll decline your invitation.

I didn't want one and had 3 thrown for me. I asked for no presents, but some people truely delight in buying your new baby something.

To me there's not much difference between a wedding and a shower - it's a celebration of a momentuos occasion.

And, considering the only self indulgent thing you're going to do for a little while is go to the loo on your own or have a shower - why the heck not be a little bit self indulgent.

I had a celebration of women for mine - I invited all the women who had inspired me in my life and supported me, becasue right before the birth of my first baby I needed more support and inspiration than I ever had before.