That's the thing, when i have parties or etc i dont expect gifts - they make me feel really uneasy and thats mostly why i probably dont do them. Like i really want to invite family and friends to the christening but the christening is in march, a month after bubbys edd... and i dont want people to feel obligated to buy a gift - but even when you say 'strictly no gifts' someone always does and then the next person feels uncomfortable because they didnt iykwim...