I think it's just the tantrums and she will hit things or herself if she's really mad. She got mad and bit herself yesterday and then headbutted the floor. It scares me. Alot.
She's so stubborn and strong willed. Our house is filled with pictures of her in hospital and I look at them and know how lucky I am that she's here.
But she just frustrates the hell out of me.

I know she picks up on feelings, if someone is upset or angry so is she. I'm a bit stressed out and that's not helping her moods at all. And then I feel guilty because I'm contributing to the way she's acting.

As for talking about the baby, or the baby being in her face. No. She doesn't understand when we talk about the baby, she's only touched my tummy a few times and that was when she was obsessed with belly buttons. The baby's room isn't set up or have anything in it. I still need to paint the cot and get furniture.

I don't know how I'm going to cope with a newborn and DD if she's still acting like this. I'm already crapping myself over having a newborn. DD was already in a feeding/sleeping routine when we got her home.

I know I shouldn't compare. I hate that i do that.
I went to mother's group for the first time in 6 months and there were kids YOUNGER than DD who were riding around on bikes/ride on things and getting told "watch out for the baby." "Look out for Hannah, she's still a baby". I felt like crying.
The only kid who Hannah could play with was a 10 month old, who is heaps bigger than her.
I worry that because she's not around other kids that she's suffering because of it. DH wants me to take her to mothers group but I'm sick of getting told how little she is.
I know she's little. She's still in 00-0s. She has a size 1 t-shirt that she wears as a dress.

Maybe it's just all my own insecurities that are passing onto DD.